Especially when its same argument over and over arguing is draining but obvisouly if someone starts aguing with me i don't just take it but it is so draining i dont know if anyone else agrees.
I completely agree. At some point, you realize that the person is not even making any real points, but it is the person expressing all of her frustration. You don't know how to fix it, and you feel trapped by a looping pattern. That is the definition of draining.