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Is this okay or not?

I'm not looking for an argument and I don't want to debate about this, I'm just looking for yes or no and why you think so.

My sister who is a mother has a teenager who is seeing someone.

Because of the area in the house in which they reside, my sister believes she is in control of that part of the house. The owner of the house says otherwise as the sister doesn't pay rent. The sister does work a regular 80 hour paycheck every two weeks but I don't know why she just doesn't pay rent.

My sister allowed her teenager to let the person they're seeing sleep over and didn't ask the owner of the house, but the owner of the house sees it as disrespectful, because they were never asked or informed about it. To make matters worse my sister, their mother, wasn't even there to supervise.

Is it disrespectful or not, and why do you think so?

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Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

Dam you people live complicated lives!

twiigss · M

@Snuffy1957 I know and it sucks :(

I get it. But at the same time, no one ever thinks, gee should I ask? When I had my girlfriend over and I was living in the same part of the house 20 some years ago, she spent a night, and no one knew about it. Then on another occasion my dog wouldn't stop barking and it woke up the owner, they come downstairs and flipped out about her being here. We weren't even in bed yet, we were on the computer laughing about stuff.

See, in the owners mind, it's still 1950, and it's how they were raised that has them all screwed up. And if you even dare raise your voice while they have theirs raised, goodbye roof over your head.

I follow the rules and keep my head down. They need help carrying stuff in, or help with yard work, okay I'll go help. Better than trying to scrape by.

I just wish I could live with a non-drama family, and everything is normal. No anxiety, no pressures, just drive to work, come home, eat dinner, get on computer, go to bed. Simple. That's all I want.

But what's gonna happen is, you say to the owner "so and so will be staying here" owner: you never said that!!! (without raising your voice) calmly reply: when you and the other person were sitting upstairs, I mentioned it on that saturday.

Me sitting in my room: aaaaaaaannnnnnnnnnxxxxxxxxiiiiiiieeeeeettttttttyyyyyyyyyyyy anxiety :( Appetite goes away for 2 whole days, can't eat anything :(

It's so damn dysfunctional all because of one friggin person!! But, there's nothing I can do about it :(