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Is this okay or not?

I'm not looking for an argument and I don't want to debate about this, I'm just looking for yes or no and why you think so.

My sister who is a mother has a teenager who is seeing someone.

Because of the area in the house in which they reside, my sister believes she is in control of that part of the house. The owner of the house says otherwise as the sister doesn't pay rent. The sister does work a regular 80 hour paycheck every two weeks but I don't know why she just doesn't pay rent.

My sister allowed her teenager to let the person they're seeing sleep over and didn't ask the owner of the house, but the owner of the house sees it as disrespectful, because they were never asked or informed about it. To make matters worse my sister, their mother, wasn't even there to supervise.

Is it disrespectful or not, and why do you think so?

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toddr13 · 46-50, M

So, it sounds like the owner of the house lives on the property as well. If that's the case, then it was disrespectful to allow an overnight guest without getting permission to do so, regardless as to whether or not rent is paid as the owner/occupant has allowed other family members on the property as roommates, essentially.

If the owner does not reside on the property, and there was no express rule about overnight guests, and the family members in tenancy have had the ability to exercise control over the property, again regardless as to rent because that's a moot point, then the mother would be free to set her own rules for her own family and allow an overnight guest. A guest is different than allowing someone else to move in, however, which would be a problem if this became a regular habit of overnight stays, when the owner should be consulted regarding the addition of another person to the household.

In my view, if the owner is an occupant of the premises, it was completely disrespectful, regardless as to the mother's right to set rules for her own family because that right is trumped by the fact that the family are roommates of the owner/occupant, who is ultimately responsible for the property.