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I Hate My Ex Husband

I remember when I was young my mom said never to have hate in your heart. Because it does something to you.
I was married to someone I believed was my soul mate. But over the years he failed me. Treated me as if I wasn't his equal. I was just there to do those things he didn't want to do. At the end of our marriage I had dealt with years of emotional abuse. I felt torn down and worthless. And that ability to find any love for him in my heart was gone. The heart can only handle so much. I started looking at him for the man he actually was and not the man I always wanted him to be. You can't change someone its impossible. They are who they are and will remain that way. Unless they love you and want to make you happy its possible.

So although I hate the man he was with me... I can't hate him for setting me free and finally allowing me to find the man of my dreams.

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GeniUs · 56-60, M

The financial cost of leaving my wife was huge but worth every god dam penny.
The emotional cost of having my relationship with my daughters ruined, that's harder to come to terms with.

WastedShadedDaylight · 41-45, F

My ex and my daughters have an up and down relationship. He is engaged and has gotten his fiancé pregnant all in one year.

GeniUs · 56-60, M

I wonder if my ex had found somebody else whether she would have been just as vindictive, I think the answer is yes since she would leave my daughters with anybody before calling me. I think in your case your ex transferring his affection to somebody else so quickly will be a blessing.

WastedShadedDaylight · 41-45, F

Yes true it is probably a good thing. Hard on my kids but, easier on me.
We don't speak often so that makes it easier