I Feel Abandoned My friends abandoned be because I grieve about my mom too much. They tell me...

That’s so heartless my mum
was an alcoholic who wasn’t the best of mums because of this but she was my mum no matter what happened or what she done I still loved her.. my advice is find new friends massive “hugs” 💜

BalmyNites · F

I’m so sorry to hear about your Mom. Please understand that often people just don’t know what to say to a bereaved person, so they quite often say the wrong things, or nothing at all - which can be just as bad. I’m sure your friends mean well, but maybe you could consider some sort of therapy/counselling to help you come to terms with losing your Mom, as the professionals are there to listen & advise on coping strategies in such situations, whereas our friends just don’t know how to support us in the best way 💜

nowic2 · 61-69, M

Sorry for your loss. It sounds to me that to some extent you are grieving both the actual loss of your mother & also the loss of the hope that things could somehow come good for both of you with a loving mother, daughter relationship. Clearly that possibility can no longer occur & you hope is extinguished. That really is very sad. I can understand you feel abandoned & clearly your friends have no idea of how it is for you. I'm guessing you feel quite alone. All the best!

Beatbox34 · 31-35, M

Your so called "friends" are assholes. Death is something that is always irreplaceable.

My grandmother died nearly 8 years ago and I still miss her to this day. She was more like a mother to me. What the hell is wrong with those people.

You will be better off without them to be honest.

Justiceforall · M

I'm very sorry about your mother. Those people that don't understand what you are going through are thoughtless, nobody knows the pain you feel, she was your mother know matter what she done so there is love there for her. We all greive in different ways and it might take you longer to come to terms with your loss then it might for someone else. They should let you greive and you will come to terms with it in your own time. We never really get over losing a loved one but we incorporate that pain in our selfs and live with it.
Again I'm sorry for your loss.
Be strong as you can be and have a good cry if you want to.

Justice for all

MartinII · 70-79, M

I guess you are grieving for the mom you hoped your mom would be, but wasn’t quite. But as others have said, she was your mom after all. Move on yes, but only when you are ready.

xRedx · M

I mean, regardless of the circumstances, she was your mom. She gave birth and cared for you. She was still your mother and that's a deep connection to most of us.

Livingwell · 61-69, M

No matter what, she was your mom. I‘m sorry for your loss. I lost mine years ago and you never “get over it”. *hugs*

Sandra72 · 36-40, F

You need new friends. That is heartless! I am so sorry for your loss

GoodoldBob · 61-69, M

That is mighty cold of them. I hope that you eventually find solace.

Ian123 · 61-69, M

Im sorry about this, whatever people say she was still your mum 🤗

LoveBeingWatched · 51-55, M

You certainly don't need friends like these.

SW-User

She was your mother. If course you need to grieve x

SW-User

She was still your mom. :( Im sorry for your loss.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

Get rid of those assholes. It's YOUR grief process. No one can tell you what is right or wrong.