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I Don't Think That Crying Is A Sign Of Weakness

CRYING CAN BE MORE HELPFUL THAN YOU THINK

crying can help to wash chemicals linked to stress out of our body, one of the reasons we feel much better after a good cry. Higher levels of adrenocorticotrophic (ACTH) have been found in emotional tears (compared to reflex tears).
Emotional tears have special health benefits. Biochemist and “tear expert” Dr. William Frey at the Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis discovered that reflex tears are 98% water, whereas emotional tears also contain stress hormones which get excreted from the body through crying

Some people cry frequently, but not fully. ... Crying is supposed to be good for you. Tears contain toxins, after all. And feel-good chemicals are released in the body whenever we cry tears of sadness

These are the tears produced in response to that strong emotion you may experience from stress, pleasure, anger, sadness and suffering to indeed, physical pain. Psychic tears even contain a natural painkiller, called leucine enkephalin – perhaps, part of the reason why you might feel better after a good cry!

Emotional Crying Means You're Human
While the eyes of all mammals are moistened and soothed by tears, only human beings shed tears in response to emotional stress. Emotional expression acknowledges the feelings you're having. Emotions motivate us to empathize, coordinate and work as a unit to best survive. So the next time you feel that lump in the throat or your eyes start watering, go ahead and have a good cry. There's nothing to be ashamed of.
These quotes were taken from the study on crying 😢
I always knew it was good for a person to cry ☺

Rick

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Estoypuber · 22-25, M

O la, Rick,
You seek out these great articles to make not only your life better, but to help you be a better counsellor, as you are sort of a "father confessor" to many garçons like myself.
So often, as I was tryna survive the abuse of my family, yet my own Da would smack me in the mouth, and say, "shut-up before I really give you something to cry about," I could only cry in secret, like hiding in my closet, so they'd be unlikely to sneak up, and catch me.

Until recently I never knew what love was, because any time I heard those words they would be followed up with a smack in the mouth.
It wasn't until I was on tour with the opera, and like all kids who are performing professionally, was under the care of a baby wrangler, that I began to understand what real love was like.
I was beset with anxiety attacks, and instead of smacking me cross the mouth and shaming me, my baby wrangler/ bodyguard would comfort me, and try to help me. That was new.

I don't know that anyone in my immediate family knows what love is, either. They know what POWER is. They know how to pry secrets from those they don't mind hitting, and that includes family. Or perhaps [i]especially[/i] family. I don't think that family means the same thing, to them, that it means to Americans.

The use of torture is still a popular method of extracting information they think they already know, not that they would admit it.
I am living proof that torture does not pry out the truth. Rather, it pries out the answer they want to hear. People will say whatever the torturer wants, just to make the pain stop.

As a result, I cry a lot, and always feel shame for doing so. I cannot help it. I think I'm getting better, and I appreciate your help, mon grand frère. Thank you.
It's hard to get over what amounts to training in self loathing.

One's family has great influence over a child's development, and when one's family constantly tells the child he is worthless, bad and wrong, it is very hard to get over that.
It's not just me, I am tryna use my experiences and knowledge to help another boy who is BRILLIANT, but because his 14 siblings, and parents, are not nearly as bright, they have tried to destroy him. He has a tough time even wanting to live, much less thrive.

As a boy in a children's hospital, for almost the last three years, and having gone from over 50 pounds to under 30 pounds because of my illness, I too have struggled with whether its worth it to try to stay alive, knowing that if I do make it through this, I still have to deal with my family, which wants me to go into the government, and work for my brother as councillor. They want me to keep him from doing anything stupid.
One may ask, why let Him have that kind of power? Why not lock HIM in the bunker, where he cannot hurt anyone, and let someone who can think for himself, and is not a sociopath, take the reins?

O right, I forgot the single most important rule: HE is the firstborn, that all-important birthright thingummy, and he will be easiest to control, to be a puppet, even if he is a monster puppet.
Plus, he has no genetic defect, and is publicly presentable; He can maintain the image of the invincible giant, where another could not.

Sorry. I learnt an abbreviation recently that is TMI, meaning Too Much Information.
I make one's eyes glaze over, and will possibly lose my internet privileges for spilling too much.

Idk, I am feeling very reckless and rebellious, possibly because of the meds they give me. Idk why, but I feel like I don't care what happens.
I should stop. Not because of what can happen to me, but I have committed to a VERY bright garçon to get better, so I can help him learn to be the best anyone has ever seen, and I believe he has that potential.

I apologise for bending your ear mon grand frère. This world has about seven years, eight tops, before it all comes tumbling down.

Au revoir, mon frère,

Pubèr Ü👦Ü

Footsugar123 · M

@Estoypuber been there, being whipped and having my step-dad get even madder because of the crying, whipping me even harder say those very same words. Like I could turn them off. After I got to 13 it was the fist or any other thing that might be close at hand, but the whipping with a belt stopped. My step-dad only loved to punish the boys and sometimes the girls but wasn't as likely to be as hard on them. That's all he loved besides his drinking habits. Since I've gotten older and see the age Taking its toll on him and can remember thinking that he was going to regret acting like that and he does now, even though he wouldn't admit it, he's always trying to talk about stuff now, like I forgot or my siblings forget how we was treated by him. We tolerate him is all. There wasn't a great amount of love from him or for him, not even by his own son. Your family is a bit screwed up, I'm sorry for putting it that way but the truth is going to stand when the world is on fire. You found love in Shelia and from others around you that are now your family. There not ashamed of you crying I wouldn't think, the same is not letting out those tears, and having no one to be there for you. Being first born, in your country must be something from mid evil days, I think though since that's how things are done there, that you can still be a good influence on your brother, sometimes there's more power behind the one in charge, you could be that little bird whispering in his ear, helping from the back ground. My eyes didn't start watering yet from reading your reply, I don't think that expressing what you have on your mind would do that because it helps you getting things out. I don't know what my point is now, lol 😁 the subject jumped around but it's all good. If you feel like crying, go for it, don't be ashamed of it, just don't cry in front of me, or I will be crying with you.
Love you puber
Rick