I Wish I Was In a Great Relationship
What to do?
My now boyfriend of about 3 years is wishy washy about our relationship. Tells me I’m his dream girl and has done extraordinary things for me and my kids. Which, shows love. We are about 15 years age difference.
In the beginning, he left the mother of their two kids for me. They were divorced for about 10 years and both stayed for the kids. No one knew that they were divorced. They were miserable and never did anything together. She told me for many hours on the phone how she could not stand him and all the bad things about him.
I was separated from my now ex husband at the time and ready for papers to be signed. Found out he cheated on me with multiple women and drug and alcoholic issues. The now boyfriend chased me and was very concern that he was married. Red flag. He wanted to kiss me and I said no. A week or two passed by and we were getting very close. Honestly, I felt like I found my soul mate and he said the same. So, he sat me down and told me that he couldn’t continue with us talking due to his business and reputation in town. I walked out and never spoke another word to him. Respected his wishes. 3 days later he texted me and wanted to meet for lunch. He told me he did not want to live life without me. Also, told me he was not married and was divorced about 10 years ago.
Well all hit the fan when the ex wife found out about us. Every since our relationship has been a struggle. She does everything in her power to hurt him. During the time she had a few cancer cells on her womanly area. She was a very lucky it was at the level it was in. She made it seem like to people in town that she was dying in hospital bed. Even the kids were like mom is being exaggerated at the circumstance. She dragged this on for years. Now, people in town see the truth. Anyways!
She will not allow the kids to see me. The youngest doesn’t mind and the oldest doesn’t want to hurt his mom.
We are at a fork in the road because it bothers my boyfriend that his oldest won’t have anything to do with me.
The other part, my boyfriend changed from being this awesome man and when things went down. We started to fuss a lot about the situation. He would get hot and cold. To the point where I wouldn’t speak to him for 3-5 days. He would always come back apologizing. We have a remarkable relationship and crazy about each other.
The kids bother him for not giving me a chance. Well, his oldest child that’s in his 20’s. Even the kids seen they never were close and seen they were not happy in their “fake marriage.”
Hope I’m not sounding non-sympathetic to the ex wife. Cancer is scary and my boyfriend was going to tell her within a few days before she found out. He makes sure she is paid plenty of money weekly, lives in a nice home, newer vehicle and trips. She never worked but he does not want to see her suffer or for the kids to see their mom not make it.
To this day, she will not leave us alone. Bad mouths us, broke into his phone and read our text messages. Had him on GPS and broke into his Apple ID to get all the info. Still to the day she is attacking me. Calls my kids ugly and look like aliens. They are seriously cute!
What do I do? Give it more time?
I tried to let him go many times and he does everything to be with me. My two kids love him and the youngest thinks that he is his dad.
The ex wife plans on dating next year when the youngest goes to college. Will she move on and not be so mean?
I totally get my boyfriend should have said I’m moving out and went his separate ways. But, it was bad timing and wanted to make sure she was okay through the cancer procedure. Once again, they were not happy at all. She knew he wanted to go when the youngest left the house. She wanted to move on etc.
What do y’all think? If you have questions just ask. Thanks
My now boyfriend of about 3 years is wishy washy about our relationship. Tells me I’m his dream girl and has done extraordinary things for me and my kids. Which, shows love. We are about 15 years age difference.
In the beginning, he left the mother of their two kids for me. They were divorced for about 10 years and both stayed for the kids. No one knew that they were divorced. They were miserable and never did anything together. She told me for many hours on the phone how she could not stand him and all the bad things about him.
I was separated from my now ex husband at the time and ready for papers to be signed. Found out he cheated on me with multiple women and drug and alcoholic issues. The now boyfriend chased me and was very concern that he was married. Red flag. He wanted to kiss me and I said no. A week or two passed by and we were getting very close. Honestly, I felt like I found my soul mate and he said the same. So, he sat me down and told me that he couldn’t continue with us talking due to his business and reputation in town. I walked out and never spoke another word to him. Respected his wishes. 3 days later he texted me and wanted to meet for lunch. He told me he did not want to live life without me. Also, told me he was not married and was divorced about 10 years ago.
Well all hit the fan when the ex wife found out about us. Every since our relationship has been a struggle. She does everything in her power to hurt him. During the time she had a few cancer cells on her womanly area. She was a very lucky it was at the level it was in. She made it seem like to people in town that she was dying in hospital bed. Even the kids were like mom is being exaggerated at the circumstance. She dragged this on for years. Now, people in town see the truth. Anyways!
She will not allow the kids to see me. The youngest doesn’t mind and the oldest doesn’t want to hurt his mom.
We are at a fork in the road because it bothers my boyfriend that his oldest won’t have anything to do with me.
The other part, my boyfriend changed from being this awesome man and when things went down. We started to fuss a lot about the situation. He would get hot and cold. To the point where I wouldn’t speak to him for 3-5 days. He would always come back apologizing. We have a remarkable relationship and crazy about each other.
The kids bother him for not giving me a chance. Well, his oldest child that’s in his 20’s. Even the kids seen they never were close and seen they were not happy in their “fake marriage.”
Hope I’m not sounding non-sympathetic to the ex wife. Cancer is scary and my boyfriend was going to tell her within a few days before she found out. He makes sure she is paid plenty of money weekly, lives in a nice home, newer vehicle and trips. She never worked but he does not want to see her suffer or for the kids to see their mom not make it.
To this day, she will not leave us alone. Bad mouths us, broke into his phone and read our text messages. Had him on GPS and broke into his Apple ID to get all the info. Still to the day she is attacking me. Calls my kids ugly and look like aliens. They are seriously cute!
What do I do? Give it more time?
I tried to let him go many times and he does everything to be with me. My two kids love him and the youngest thinks that he is his dad.
The ex wife plans on dating next year when the youngest goes to college. Will she move on and not be so mean?
I totally get my boyfriend should have said I’m moving out and went his separate ways. But, it was bad timing and wanted to make sure she was okay through the cancer procedure. Once again, they were not happy at all. She knew he wanted to go when the youngest left the house. She wanted to move on etc.
What do y’all think? If you have questions just ask. Thanks
36-40, F
