I Think Verbal Abuse Is Just As Bad As Physical Abuse

Abuse has always been known to me. I have been physically, emotionally, and verbally abused by my older sister (half). I have been abused by my mother and father and I have been abused by people at school. Ever since childhood I have accepted abuse and had become as small as a mouse. I feel like nothing I will say about my abuse will matter to my parents. I had recently had the courage to tell my mom about my abuse form my sister when she told me she does not believe me. Apparently because she has not seen it, it did not happen. I feel foolish that my mother someone I thought I loved and trusted could not stand by me. I want nothing to do with my mother or father anymore, how could I stand or love someone who does not believe my story.

This has happened before, as I told my mother and sister I was being abused by my cousin and even in the past they did not care or believe me. They still don't. Apparently I am the actual problem because I have a "smart mouth" and I was the "problem child". I am 19 now and My mother does not live with me but lives with her boyfriend. Unfortunately I had to suffer silently from the abuse I suffered because deep down I knew no one (my mother) wouldn't care. I knew deep down no one would listen or not believe me. I still live with my sister sadly, and she has brought her boyfriend (illegally) into the house to join in on her bullying.

What disgust me the most is that my mother has been abused by my father, so I would think she would understand the pain I have suffered. There is abuse on my mothers side, that I do not want to be apart of. I do not know what do, I would rather die than be in the house with the person who called me horrible names throughout my life. I want to leave but I do not know where to do, I was thinking subsidized housing for homeless but I am not sure. Now I really know no one is on my side and that I really do have no one to help me.

I can literally talk all day about this, I have contacted a attorney to help me get a restraining order against my sister because my mother has been forcing me to be around her when I do not want to be associated with her. Please let me know what you think, and thank you for reading.

HannibalMontanimal · 26-30, M

As someone who suffered from verbal abuse I know how it feels. I suffered from abuse from mostly my dad verbally and in my opinion, that’s worse than physical abuse because you transfer that verbal abuse to yourself and you start to believe that you really are this worthless person that your parents made you believe. Anyway, what I’ve learned recently is that you should stop expecting anything from them and whoever else is abusing you; DO NOT go to them about any of your problems. When you do that; you’re giving them a chance to shit on you. I suggest you find your own place. You’re going to have to do put a lot of effort into this. Once you move out you’ll be able to think a lot better. That’s the main thing though don’t expect anything from them and don’t put your self in the position for them to bring you down. Move out. That will help you a lot. And as for the emotional damage you’re going to have to try and heal yourself and be gentle with yourself and probably a therapist would help too.

TheRealRonnieJ · 22-25, M

I've suffered from both physical and verbal abuse and I can totally agree with you. Although most of the time the girls that harassed me would mostly physically downgrade me, verbal can be even worse