I Love Hongruilin

Carissimi@ I did not mean a serious love relationship on line,I meant meaningful on line friendships.A jealous partner would even feel threatened by those.Of course if someone was having an "intimate" relationship on line with someone other than one's life partner it would be alike to betrayal.

Elandra77@ Jealousy is a very destructive force,I believe that jealousy is the opposite of love,if you are jealous of someone you cannot possibly love them.My ex was very jealous of my career, he thought that I was "better than him" he would not let me do my midwifery for that reason "IF I LET YOU do your midwifery,you will think that you are better than me!"They cannot stand to see you happy "I know you love your job and I am going to make you lose it" he used to say and he tried,but I did not fall for his tricks,I will not tell you here how he went about it,but it was diabolical! Narcissists are evil at worse and toxic at best.Your friend's husband probably could not stand to see her having a rewarding relationship with others and stopped her,he probably also had her passwords and was reading all her posts,mine use to open all my letters,read them and throw them away!

Hi SD. I do not think she is. She left abruptly form EP. And I believe her husband came on and said she would not be back. I think that is because he felt jealous and wanted ALL of her attention. She was quite popular and inspiring. Damn men and their jealousy issues.

@berangere. Yes she wad. And in so many ways. Her ability to touch another was uncanny anf a rare gift. She did this with all. It was like being in the presence of a mastet-and not realizing it later. But rather now.

@berangere Great post with the pic. I love wisdom like that. It cuts to the heart of the matter and does do in few words.

I never thought of how dangerous his jealousy could be. And I could be wrong about this. I think she had medical issues as well. but one could be on EP while recovering. As great as she was at writing- her tale and her healing would have been a great story. She spoke of a number of personal issues.

But now that you mention it-i am a bit concerned about the possible jealousy issue. She enjoyed this site far TOO much leave as abruptly as she did. And then cam back a few months later and deleted all her 200 plus stories.

Very odd, indeed.

I do love her, eternally. And I could so easily fall in love with her. But fixtures and forces, time and circumstance have prevented that. BUT---we are soulmates. In one of our past lives, we were something to one another. In this life, she is my muse;the words to my music. And a muse I no longer have. Nor does anyone else. For reasons said above.

She may have. But I believe she was forced to leave. To make a choice. And no, that is not unusual. But given how open she was on so many topics - and to so many- It is odd the auspices she left under. I do believe there weer health issues. I know there were. but there was more to it than that.

Her stories were so inspirational to so many. Shame she deleted all of them.

DKMoon@ keeping your marriage "intact" does not mean having to give up what means a lot to you,only pathological jealousy forces you to make that choice,love and maturity on the part of your "significant other" should accommodate both.

@Elandra - it's not unreasonable for her husband to demand her attention. One of my last conversations with her revolved around feelings of guilt she was having for crossing the line.

Maybe she left to keep her marriage intact.

@Unlearn Yes, she was. And not just to me, but to many. She had a rare gift, a talent, for touching each and every one she came in contact with. H er interests were also very varied and that made for an interesting life.

@berangere - My comment was purely conjecture. I only know what she told me about crossing a line she had been committed to not cross. Maybe it was her choice to leave.

I do remember her from my days at EP and I think she was in my circle at the time. She is definitely one that I will miss

@Elandra.Yes,true masters are quite humble,they don't need to prove anything,truth,wisdom and goodness just radiate out of them.

Elandra77@ that type of jealousy is pathological,he could be a narcissist,I lived with one for 7 years.

I noticed het on EP but didn't talk much...was she that interesting as a person?

I heard a lot about that lady.She must have been quite special.😀

of all the things I miss on EP, it is the Hongy one!

hey Ela..How are you?...mabe she is back on here, with a different name...

DKMoon@ Yes, may be it was her choice to leave.

I remember seeing her on EP.

Sad to lose a friend.🥀😞