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I Hate My Siblings

So, my siblings and I don't talk. All 3 of us have the same dad, but they have a different mom than me. My dad made some mistakes when we were growing up (nothing illegal) and apologized to everybody, INCLUDING his ex-wife (their mother). My siblings continue to avoid seeing or talking to him. I have no relationship with them whatsoever. My sister resents me and my brother hates me. The holidays, and even my birthday, are hard for me. The second I hear from them, my day goes to shit because I know it is just texts/calls that they feel obligated to make, but my parents and I are usually the ones who call and visit. My parents and I lived in oklahoma for 20+ years, my brother moving out when I was 10 years old, meaning we were there for another 18 years or so (I moved to tennessee 4 years ago and my parents moved here in 2018). Both of my siblings came down for my high school graduation, my sister for my MA graduation, and my brother one other time. They have never been to visit me or my parents here in Tennessee. I have tried to talk to them about their day and stuff, but as soon as I move from the "happy birthday" to "how have you been?" they ignore my texts. My sister threw a HUGE thing for my brother's 40th, and I know she would never do the same for me. I just don't know what to do anymore. They're part of the reason for my depression and I can't stand it.
Btw, my sister is 13 years older than me and my brother is 9 years older than me.
dominoesgirl · 36-40, F
I have basically decided that I will be deleting them as friends as soon as I can. My niece graduated this year, but sadly, because of stupid COVID, there was no ceremony. I would have loved to have gone, but because I have no relationship with my siblings, it is awkward with everybody. I don't know what I could have done wrong to them. All I want are siblings who treat me like a sister and love me. I mean, is that too much to ask for? I'm not asking for money or anything; I just want a relationship. I just don't know what more I can do. I'm afraid that my niece and nephew have to be reminded who I am any time they hear my name or see me.
When I have/adopt kids, I am determined to have great relationships with the entire family. I want my kids to be close to each other. I'm realistic in knowing that they won't always get along, but as long as they love each other and know it, I will be a happy momma. I don't always LIKE someone, but I can LOVE them no matter what. It is hard to love someone, though, that you have no relationship with.
Bluesky52 · 61-69, M
same,3 of us and there 2 half sisters,we've grown apart,we dont even talk much either,
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
There is absolutely nothing you can do about this. The reason for your depression is not your siblings. They are not the cause of your depression. But it seems you have been able to forgive your dad for the "mistakes" he made...but they might not ever and apologizing doesn't make the mistakes go away.

The main thing is that you should stop blaming them for your depression and accept that your relationship with them.might never be what you wish it would.

 
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