I Will Never Again Stay In a Toxic Relationship
Mum - son toxic relationship is a difficult one. But once yer between 18-21 n leave parents it feels like a breath of air, right?
IT DOES! Although I still visit there are 90% things may not share (feelings, plan for future). My sis shares absolute nothing with mum. Perhaps with dad not Ma. I look back n see ZERO hugs, support, encouragement, efforts to do best. Simply because there were NONE coming from mum.
You can be a strict mum, you can set rules n harsh punishments. But if your adult kid comes to u, shares things with you, enjoy visits then YOU know you did something right!
Any new / young mums and dads reading this, it may be advisable to take a few advice... NEVER give kids"You can't do" attitude. NEVER compare other people's kids achievement with yer own kids. NEVER criticise, ALWAYS encourage.
You parents can be poor, strict, introverts, extrovert, harsh punishers, weird - DOESN'T MATTER!!! What matters is paying attention to your kids, teaching them d.i.y, cooking or football n saying "Am telling you this but you'll able to cook/ paint if you learn it now." Or maybe they're lacking something, "Come on, you should able to count to 10 at your age! Let's do it together." (Award them with a pat and set in a belief they can). Or encourage preteens to be more engaging in activities, where they may learn a new skill. Your failing kid is upset explain to them they will b better next time (losing team on baseball or last in a race may make em cry). Then critise BUT explain how they can improve in future.
These things will make a huge difference.
IT DOES! Although I still visit there are 90% things may not share (feelings, plan for future). My sis shares absolute nothing with mum. Perhaps with dad not Ma. I look back n see ZERO hugs, support, encouragement, efforts to do best. Simply because there were NONE coming from mum.
You can be a strict mum, you can set rules n harsh punishments. But if your adult kid comes to u, shares things with you, enjoy visits then YOU know you did something right!
Any new / young mums and dads reading this, it may be advisable to take a few advice... NEVER give kids"You can't do" attitude. NEVER compare other people's kids achievement with yer own kids. NEVER criticise, ALWAYS encourage.
You parents can be poor, strict, introverts, extrovert, harsh punishers, weird - DOESN'T MATTER!!! What matters is paying attention to your kids, teaching them d.i.y, cooking or football n saying "Am telling you this but you'll able to cook/ paint if you learn it now." Or maybe they're lacking something, "Come on, you should able to count to 10 at your age! Let's do it together." (Award them with a pat and set in a belief they can). Or encourage preteens to be more engaging in activities, where they may learn a new skill. Your failing kid is upset explain to them they will b better next time (losing team on baseball or last in a race may make em cry). Then critise BUT explain how they can improve in future.
These things will make a huge difference.
31-35, M