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Gamalon · 31-35, M
Lust is like a fire. And that fire can be good or bad. An example of good lust is longing for and loving your spouse. When you find that special someone (and you might have that person already) lusting for your sprouse is not only okay it along with its fruits: Sex and intimacy are commanded in the Bible and are not sins. That said if we do hot have a spous or a stable relationship, the fire of lust us bad. Especially if it pornographic.
Consider the fire analogy: a small match on a cold day will burn out and die in seconds. A small fire on a stove or campfire that is controlled and do good. But make it too big and you lose control. Start to keep track of what lights your fire. What is it that makes you crazy for love? By doing this you can see where are your “danger zones” Humans ADULTS are sexual beings. Thus ADULT Christians are sexual beings as well. Sometimes the fire of lust is in the rain and is out. Other times its summer and there is Kindling EVERWHERE. Seek to know what STARTES your fire before you have to put it out. Not only that, but knowing what makes you crazy will teach you how to gauge your Real life relationships, when to give the flame more fuel or less fuel.
Second, know your hormonal cycle. If you lusted for 48 hrs you would be probably sick of it, wanna see ANYTHING but what is sexual. Something wholesome: that is a flame the burned up its fuel. Other times it burns BUT through Christian repression (which is good and commanded for single ppl) those hormones either back up or mess with your brain. Seek to regulate your WHOLE body. As a young man thats hard but over time you can see how the food you eat, your exercise and entertainment DOES have an impact on your appetites.
Lastly when you are in the fire, pray to God and Jesus and trust in them. When you Deny lust you are doing the Self Denial as Commanded in the Bible. And thats awesome. Self denial may be the last thing that a Christian must practice since it hurts bad. BUT!! It does get better over time (See *) and you can use your innate desires to seek out nice friends. Guys are good for accountability or just prayer support Or fun. A Guys night out may JUST MAYBLE make you forget about Girly time every once ina while. Meet girls as friends to also gain ppl you can trust and live life with. Among those seek out those who WANT more.
Good luck and keep up the faith. I’ll pray you keep doing well.
(Ps. There is nothign wrong with an ADULT DREAM from a biblical POV, those might help you steer from the fantasies of the internet until you find something stable).
Consider the fire analogy: a small match on a cold day will burn out and die in seconds. A small fire on a stove or campfire that is controlled and do good. But make it too big and you lose control. Start to keep track of what lights your fire. What is it that makes you crazy for love? By doing this you can see where are your “danger zones” Humans ADULTS are sexual beings. Thus ADULT Christians are sexual beings as well. Sometimes the fire of lust is in the rain and is out. Other times its summer and there is Kindling EVERWHERE. Seek to know what STARTES your fire before you have to put it out. Not only that, but knowing what makes you crazy will teach you how to gauge your Real life relationships, when to give the flame more fuel or less fuel.
Second, know your hormonal cycle. If you lusted for 48 hrs you would be probably sick of it, wanna see ANYTHING but what is sexual. Something wholesome: that is a flame the burned up its fuel. Other times it burns BUT through Christian repression (which is good and commanded for single ppl) those hormones either back up or mess with your brain. Seek to regulate your WHOLE body. As a young man thats hard but over time you can see how the food you eat, your exercise and entertainment DOES have an impact on your appetites.
Lastly when you are in the fire, pray to God and Jesus and trust in them. When you Deny lust you are doing the Self Denial as Commanded in the Bible. And thats awesome. Self denial may be the last thing that a Christian must practice since it hurts bad. BUT!! It does get better over time (See *) and you can use your innate desires to seek out nice friends. Guys are good for accountability or just prayer support Or fun. A Guys night out may JUST MAYBLE make you forget about Girly time every once ina while. Meet girls as friends to also gain ppl you can trust and live life with. Among those seek out those who WANT more.
Good luck and keep up the faith. I’ll pray you keep doing well.
(Ps. There is nothign wrong with an ADULT DREAM from a biblical POV, those might help you steer from the fantasies of the internet until you find something stable).