I Am Shocked By Some Of The Words Spoken To Me
Words spoken in childhood, have tremendous impact upon the human psyche, they do in fact, stick like barbs, if
they are harsh and critical, and can sometimes maime a person for life. Children need and want affirmation, not
condemnation. They are trying to understand the world that they find themselves in, and the people closest to them
are their parents. They are the center of their world, and they see them as God.
Most parents are not equipped to actually be parents, and can only parent as they were parented. Failure, as
well as success is handed down from generation to generation.
If a child is told that he is stupid, and useless, he will grow up to that expectation. On the other hand, if his tiny
efforts are rewarded with an encouraging word, he will blossom under the nurturing power that comes with those
words. His spirit within, will be strengthened, and he will learn to build, upon the positive that is coming to him.
However, just as negative is the exact opposite of positive, words that are negatively spoken will have a
harmful effect upon his emotions. If he is made to think of himself as a failure, and that will carry thru into everything that
he attempts to do, say or think. If he sees himself in the eyes of those around him, who are his world, when he is small,
as failure, he will grow up thinking that there is nothing that he can do right, and this will affect everything about him. It
will influence his decisions, causing him to not live up to his potential, causing him to choose friends who feel the same
as he does, affecting all of his choices, stealing his potential, hiding it under layers of negative words that have covered
his mind like a cloak. Layers that are not easy to remove, layers that often last a lifetime.
Most parents don't set out to do damage to their children, they just parent as they have been parented, because it
is familiar to them, and really all they know. The exception to this, is the rare person who figures out at some point in
his/her life that there is a better way, and reaches out to learn how to find that better way, thru self education, prayer - once
they find God, and they try to seek out people who will help them to be different, in a good way.
Change requires effort, and determination, and oftentimes it is easier to remain the same, because that requires
less effort, but, what that does is to create a merry go round pattern that becomes harder and harder to resist.
Role models are very important in peoples lives, especially young people, who are so very vunerable. They need
to see positive in an adult, so that they can have something to pattern themselves by, that is different from what they are
currently experiencing.
A loving, nurturing childhood, produces a loving and nurturing adult, one who is better equipped to face the challenges
of life, one who does not cave in, at the first sign of opposition, but, has the built in strength to keep on keeping in, believing
in himself.
they are harsh and critical, and can sometimes maime a person for life. Children need and want affirmation, not
condemnation. They are trying to understand the world that they find themselves in, and the people closest to them
are their parents. They are the center of their world, and they see them as God.
Most parents are not equipped to actually be parents, and can only parent as they were parented. Failure, as
well as success is handed down from generation to generation.
If a child is told that he is stupid, and useless, he will grow up to that expectation. On the other hand, if his tiny
efforts are rewarded with an encouraging word, he will blossom under the nurturing power that comes with those
words. His spirit within, will be strengthened, and he will learn to build, upon the positive that is coming to him.
However, just as negative is the exact opposite of positive, words that are negatively spoken will have a
harmful effect upon his emotions. If he is made to think of himself as a failure, and that will carry thru into everything that
he attempts to do, say or think. If he sees himself in the eyes of those around him, who are his world, when he is small,
as failure, he will grow up thinking that there is nothing that he can do right, and this will affect everything about him. It
will influence his decisions, causing him to not live up to his potential, causing him to choose friends who feel the same
as he does, affecting all of his choices, stealing his potential, hiding it under layers of negative words that have covered
his mind like a cloak. Layers that are not easy to remove, layers that often last a lifetime.
Most parents don't set out to do damage to their children, they just parent as they have been parented, because it
is familiar to them, and really all they know. The exception to this, is the rare person who figures out at some point in
his/her life that there is a better way, and reaches out to learn how to find that better way, thru self education, prayer - once
they find God, and they try to seek out people who will help them to be different, in a good way.
Change requires effort, and determination, and oftentimes it is easier to remain the same, because that requires
less effort, but, what that does is to create a merry go round pattern that becomes harder and harder to resist.
Role models are very important in peoples lives, especially young people, who are so very vunerable. They need
to see positive in an adult, so that they can have something to pattern themselves by, that is different from what they are
currently experiencing.
A loving, nurturing childhood, produces a loving and nurturing adult, one who is better equipped to face the challenges
of life, one who does not cave in, at the first sign of opposition, but, has the built in strength to keep on keeping in, believing
in himself.
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