I Hate Hurting People

I keep on hurting those close to me, and I just can't seem to fix it. I always have the best intentions in mind, but I just end up upsetting the person in question. I also lie compulsively with those good intentions, which only makes everything worse. Why can't I just be a genuine, straightforward person who just speaks their mind? Why do I feel the need to be dishonest to make others happy? Why can't I just fvcking learn?