I Think Cheating Is Wrong
I don't think it is, I know it is. If a relationship is not working out the next best thing to do is leave. No reason to hurt that SO by cheating on them.
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ArthurP · 80-89, M
It's wrong, I agree. But your interpretation of 'cheating', and your solution, are also wrong.
Having an affair is not necessarily an indication a relationship is not working out. There may be deficiencies, there may be areas - particularly sexual - where external factors have resulted in famine or boredom. But it does not mean the overall relationship has broken down, and with many couples - probably the majority - in long-term relationships there will be moments when one or both stray from the straight and narrow. If the underpinnings of that relationship are already weak, then your solution - separation - may well be best. But where the fundamentals are strong, then such episodes can be worked through.
Yes, MUCH better not to cheat:
Yes, if you do, better not to be found out.
But if it is discovered, especially in an otherwise strong long term relationship where there are children, consider very carefully the options of working it through, forgiving, and rebuild on the existing firm foundations. You would be amazed how many couples of my age have become wonderful contented couples where, in the past, one or both may not have been entirely true to their marriage vows.
Having an affair is not necessarily an indication a relationship is not working out. There may be deficiencies, there may be areas - particularly sexual - where external factors have resulted in famine or boredom. But it does not mean the overall relationship has broken down, and with many couples - probably the majority - in long-term relationships there will be moments when one or both stray from the straight and narrow. If the underpinnings of that relationship are already weak, then your solution - separation - may well be best. But where the fundamentals are strong, then such episodes can be worked through.
Yes, MUCH better not to cheat:
Yes, if you do, better not to be found out.
But if it is discovered, especially in an otherwise strong long term relationship where there are children, consider very carefully the options of working it through, forgiving, and rebuild on the existing firm foundations. You would be amazed how many couples of my age have become wonderful contented couples where, in the past, one or both may not have been entirely true to their marriage vows.
SW-User
it really is very wrong and cheater should be ashamed of herself/himself
FreestyleArt · 31-35, M
you should at least let him know before hand
CharlieZ · 70-79, M
You are so right.
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
So true
DDonde · 31-35, M
I agree.