I Am Unemployed
The Things That Bother Me About Unemployment... I hate how much a person can be defined by the job they do, when really we're all a bit more complicated underneath that la<x>yer. This became clear to me the last time I was working when I learned the diversity of school backgrounds and how unrelated our jobs were to what we studied, which probably says more about the way the economy and school systems are structured more than anything else but that's another story for another time.
So what really bothers me is when family who are all far removed from what I am going through because they're all in fairly comfortable jobs stick their noses into things, and being the optimist am cognizant of their good intentions. There's no question they aren't there for support, and to be sure I don't doubt their sincerity. On the other hand certain things they do give me a bad feeling and it sucks. A good part of what I hear when I talk about my career direction with family leads in the direction of things I should be doing instead of how I feel and I never feel like I am holding an honest talk about what i'd like to do with my life.
Over time what seems to have happened is it's gotten to the point where I get less open with them about anything involving my career. I tell them as little as possible about my career, not a word about resumes, cover letters, or places I've applied to... my reasoning for this is that there's enough resources out there to help me with that stuff, so if I have news it might as well be good news instead of telling them everything. Besides if I am going to do this I might as well learn to do it on my own.
But too much time has been passing between now and the last time I've had a job, and my frustration with dealing with that stuff grows, and what I really want is to feel like I am in the company of people who care about what I do for a living....Anyways that's my little piece sorry for sounding whiny
So what really bothers me is when family who are all far removed from what I am going through because they're all in fairly comfortable jobs stick their noses into things, and being the optimist am cognizant of their good intentions. There's no question they aren't there for support, and to be sure I don't doubt their sincerity. On the other hand certain things they do give me a bad feeling and it sucks. A good part of what I hear when I talk about my career direction with family leads in the direction of things I should be doing instead of how I feel and I never feel like I am holding an honest talk about what i'd like to do with my life.
Over time what seems to have happened is it's gotten to the point where I get less open with them about anything involving my career. I tell them as little as possible about my career, not a word about resumes, cover letters, or places I've applied to... my reasoning for this is that there's enough resources out there to help me with that stuff, so if I have news it might as well be good news instead of telling them everything. Besides if I am going to do this I might as well learn to do it on my own.
But too much time has been passing between now and the last time I've had a job, and my frustration with dealing with that stuff grows, and what I really want is to feel like I am in the company of people who care about what I do for a living....Anyways that's my little piece sorry for sounding whiny
36-40, M
