I Love My Kids Very Much
Disturbing That Some Parents Don't... Or don't show it to their children.
Maybe they are unable to express their love for their kids, or even worse they think that their children are a burden to them.
Having been in other countries and cultures I find things that are disturbing, upsetting, joyous and even odd.
Watching a program on a television here I have seen two different programs that the father of a child says things that visibly upset the child in front of others.
The first example was one where a young girl about 17 to 20 years old has gone off to work on a cruise ship. Her parents come to see her and her manager comes out to meet her parents. The first words that the translator says in behalf of the father to the manager is, " Hello there, I apologize for my daughter being so stupid and difficult to work with." The manager in turn says that she is fine and that she learns quickly and is a great student. The camera shows the daughter right off after this exchange and she is visibly upset, tears in her eyes, posture slumped and afraid to say anything. She is very quiet when it comes to talking to her parents whom she hasn't seen, according to the narrator, for almost nine months. The father and mother don't tell their daughter that they are proud of her being able to start out on her own and that she is making great progress, that she is looking well or better than she was. No their first words are ones of demoralizing and almost physically painful in nature.
Now I know that it is a program on the people but still, to see the father act that way towards his child and then the children have such low self esteem it is no wonder our kids feel that they can't talk to grown ups some times.
The other program I was watching was about kids that have gone off from their parents at a very young age, like 5 and then they are at school until they are 21 or so. There is correspondence with the kids to the parents but the fact that the parents have sent the child off to be with other adults to do what the parents want them to do. It was said on the program that the father of this only child wants her to be this. Now she has no choice, she is in this gymnastic school and she has to become a gymnast because that is what her father wants her to be. She has no choice. The daughter has told her father that she doesn't want to go back to the academy but the father says if she quits then everything she has been doing is a waste and that she will have nothing.
Again, forcing a child to do the will of the father cause it is his ambition not hers. Where is her choice in this? Does he love her? I am sure in his way he does. Funny how he doesn't show it...
I love my kids and want the most for them, want the best for them, but I want them to also find their way have their choice to do what they want. To have a relationship with my kids and even though I travel for a living I am in contact with them almost daily. I feel guilty sometimes that I am not there every day but then again they know why I travel and why I am gone so much and we have fun when I get back. My daughter would like to see what I do and what I work on she would like to do the things that I do. Which I don't think that is what she wants to do for all of her life but that she has made the decision to at least investigate what her father does for a living.
I want my kids to do the best that they can and have joy in doing what they do, I show them all that I can in the world and see where their interests lie.
Love my kids very much and as a father that is what I can do and I tell them everyday that I love them.
Hope that fathers tell their children that they love them, it doesn't make the father less in the child's eyes.
Maybe they are unable to express their love for their kids, or even worse they think that their children are a burden to them.
Having been in other countries and cultures I find things that are disturbing, upsetting, joyous and even odd.
Watching a program on a television here I have seen two different programs that the father of a child says things that visibly upset the child in front of others.
The first example was one where a young girl about 17 to 20 years old has gone off to work on a cruise ship. Her parents come to see her and her manager comes out to meet her parents. The first words that the translator says in behalf of the father to the manager is, " Hello there, I apologize for my daughter being so stupid and difficult to work with." The manager in turn says that she is fine and that she learns quickly and is a great student. The camera shows the daughter right off after this exchange and she is visibly upset, tears in her eyes, posture slumped and afraid to say anything. She is very quiet when it comes to talking to her parents whom she hasn't seen, according to the narrator, for almost nine months. The father and mother don't tell their daughter that they are proud of her being able to start out on her own and that she is making great progress, that she is looking well or better than she was. No their first words are ones of demoralizing and almost physically painful in nature.
Now I know that it is a program on the people but still, to see the father act that way towards his child and then the children have such low self esteem it is no wonder our kids feel that they can't talk to grown ups some times.
The other program I was watching was about kids that have gone off from their parents at a very young age, like 5 and then they are at school until they are 21 or so. There is correspondence with the kids to the parents but the fact that the parents have sent the child off to be with other adults to do what the parents want them to do. It was said on the program that the father of this only child wants her to be this. Now she has no choice, she is in this gymnastic school and she has to become a gymnast because that is what her father wants her to be. She has no choice. The daughter has told her father that she doesn't want to go back to the academy but the father says if she quits then everything she has been doing is a waste and that she will have nothing.
Again, forcing a child to do the will of the father cause it is his ambition not hers. Where is her choice in this? Does he love her? I am sure in his way he does. Funny how he doesn't show it...
I love my kids and want the most for them, want the best for them, but I want them to also find their way have their choice to do what they want. To have a relationship with my kids and even though I travel for a living I am in contact with them almost daily. I feel guilty sometimes that I am not there every day but then again they know why I travel and why I am gone so much and we have fun when I get back. My daughter would like to see what I do and what I work on she would like to do the things that I do. Which I don't think that is what she wants to do for all of her life but that she has made the decision to at least investigate what her father does for a living.
I want my kids to do the best that they can and have joy in doing what they do, I show them all that I can in the world and see where their interests lie.
Love my kids very much and as a father that is what I can do and I tell them everyday that I love them.
Hope that fathers tell their children that they love them, it doesn't make the father less in the child's eyes.
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