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[b][big]Sharing stories I read: “Why can’t we get married with the ones we love?”[/big][/b]
[i]This story is for someone who are looking for the best partner or feeling doubtful about love[/i].
One day, a young man visited a philosopher and asked him, "Why can’t we get married with the ones we love?"
After listening the young man's question, the philosopher smiled, looked at him and said, "To get the answer, u will have go to the flower field and pick the flower you believe is the best and bring it here. But keep in mind that you are only allowed to move forward without looking back to see which flower should be interrupted. "
The boy went to the flower field. He saw a very beautiful flower and wanted to bring it right away. But he wondered whether there were any more beautiful flowers. He found a beautiful flower but he was doubtful if there was another beautiful flower in front of him.
When he passed through the fields, he realized that the flowers were not as beautiful as the flowers he missed. Therefore, he sadly returned to see the philosopher without carrying any flowers in his hand. He told the philosopher the whole story.
" You tried to look for more beautiful flowers. When you realized that u missed the most beautiful flowers, you could not turn back again. This is the most common mistake people make when they love someone and lose the best person in their life. ", the philosopher said.
The young man replied: "That means that we should not love the others?"
The philosopher smiled and said, "No! Everyone can love if they find the right person for them. If you really love someone, you should not lose that person just because of your temper, your ego, or the comparison with others. "
The boy asked again, "How can one live with someone we do not love?"
The philosopher replied: "To answer this question, go back to the field again and pick up the most beautiful flower and come back."
The boy returned to the field, remembered his experience from the last time and became careful not to repeat the mistake again. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked up a medium-sized flower that he was satisfied with, and turned back to the philosopher.
He told the philosophy about how he could pick up the flower. After listening to the young boy’s story, he said: "This time you didn’t returned with empty hands again. You chose the one that was the most suitable to you. You put your trust in this choice, that ensured that the flower was the best option for you. This is how people choose someone to marry. "
The boy felt very embarrassed. The wise philosopher saw his attitude, and asked, "What else do you want to ask now?"
The boy replied, "I wonder what better choice: marry the one I love or love the one I get married."
"This question is really easy to answer. When you have the courage to face it, every problem becomes small. Try to get the one you love, never lose them. And if you cannot get the one you love, then it is best to cherish the person you choose to be your wife for the rest of your life. ", the philosopher replied.
***
Love is the most elusive thing in the world, but one of the most popular thing people sought for whole life. Because it is difficult to grasp, it is difficult to find, and sometimes it is not easy to keep.
This story is about accepting the fact that we miss the best choice in our life and we should value more the person who stay with us no matter if we love them or not. We should make another try and love again. However, I think differently. I think we should be persistent and satisfy with the love we have, instead of looking for another better one and another better one. It is certainly that we could have some more better options during our lifetime but we will be very unhappy if we keep chasing "the best love".
As many traditional Chinese family, my family believes that the more ethical similarities between a man and a woman, the more happiness they will get when they are together. A man should get marry with a woman who has a good sense of business-mind, decent, treat people around her with polite, and respect. A woman should get marry with a man who is responsible, hard-working, and family-oriented. Family is also an important factor to judge a man/a woman. The two family should be in the same social class and have good reputation. No matter if a man/woman love each other, an educated and traditional family will not allow their children to marry someone in a complicated family. Therefore, marriage is about the “suitable” “match” factors.
I have the same thought like my family. I have some standards for the man I want to get married with and if someone can adapt those standards, I will go with him. Those standard prevents me from the temporary imbalance of emotions a man can bring when he is active to communicate with me. When someone cannot identify how a person they want to be with and tell you a non-sense sentence as " I am looking for a good girl/man to marry", leave him/her immediately because they will not value your presence for the rest of their life. We are all good people in some ways and bad in the other ways. For me, I just looked for the “suitable” man. I value how the similarities between me and my partner more than if he is good or not. When I could find him, I would stop looking for someone more. It was not because I was not confident to find a better man. I wanted to focus to love the one I chose. This is why it is hard for me to get rid of a relationship I have now. I am very persistent with my choice. I can be very happy or I can be very sad when I decide to wait for him whole my life. That is the matter of people who don’t say “love” easily.
[i]This story is for someone who are looking for the best partner or feeling doubtful about love[/i].
One day, a young man visited a philosopher and asked him, "Why can’t we get married with the ones we love?"
After listening the young man's question, the philosopher smiled, looked at him and said, "To get the answer, u will have go to the flower field and pick the flower you believe is the best and bring it here. But keep in mind that you are only allowed to move forward without looking back to see which flower should be interrupted. "
The boy went to the flower field. He saw a very beautiful flower and wanted to bring it right away. But he wondered whether there were any more beautiful flowers. He found a beautiful flower but he was doubtful if there was another beautiful flower in front of him.
When he passed through the fields, he realized that the flowers were not as beautiful as the flowers he missed. Therefore, he sadly returned to see the philosopher without carrying any flowers in his hand. He told the philosopher the whole story.
" You tried to look for more beautiful flowers. When you realized that u missed the most beautiful flowers, you could not turn back again. This is the most common mistake people make when they love someone and lose the best person in their life. ", the philosopher said.
The young man replied: "That means that we should not love the others?"
The philosopher smiled and said, "No! Everyone can love if they find the right person for them. If you really love someone, you should not lose that person just because of your temper, your ego, or the comparison with others. "
The boy asked again, "How can one live with someone we do not love?"
The philosopher replied: "To answer this question, go back to the field again and pick up the most beautiful flower and come back."
The boy returned to the field, remembered his experience from the last time and became careful not to repeat the mistake again. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked up a medium-sized flower that he was satisfied with, and turned back to the philosopher.
He told the philosophy about how he could pick up the flower. After listening to the young boy’s story, he said: "This time you didn’t returned with empty hands again. You chose the one that was the most suitable to you. You put your trust in this choice, that ensured that the flower was the best option for you. This is how people choose someone to marry. "
The boy felt very embarrassed. The wise philosopher saw his attitude, and asked, "What else do you want to ask now?"
The boy replied, "I wonder what better choice: marry the one I love or love the one I get married."
"This question is really easy to answer. When you have the courage to face it, every problem becomes small. Try to get the one you love, never lose them. And if you cannot get the one you love, then it is best to cherish the person you choose to be your wife for the rest of your life. ", the philosopher replied.
***
Love is the most elusive thing in the world, but one of the most popular thing people sought for whole life. Because it is difficult to grasp, it is difficult to find, and sometimes it is not easy to keep.
This story is about accepting the fact that we miss the best choice in our life and we should value more the person who stay with us no matter if we love them or not. We should make another try and love again. However, I think differently. I think we should be persistent and satisfy with the love we have, instead of looking for another better one and another better one. It is certainly that we could have some more better options during our lifetime but we will be very unhappy if we keep chasing "the best love".
As many traditional Chinese family, my family believes that the more ethical similarities between a man and a woman, the more happiness they will get when they are together. A man should get marry with a woman who has a good sense of business-mind, decent, treat people around her with polite, and respect. A woman should get marry with a man who is responsible, hard-working, and family-oriented. Family is also an important factor to judge a man/a woman. The two family should be in the same social class and have good reputation. No matter if a man/woman love each other, an educated and traditional family will not allow their children to marry someone in a complicated family. Therefore, marriage is about the “suitable” “match” factors.
I have the same thought like my family. I have some standards for the man I want to get married with and if someone can adapt those standards, I will go with him. Those standard prevents me from the temporary imbalance of emotions a man can bring when he is active to communicate with me. When someone cannot identify how a person they want to be with and tell you a non-sense sentence as " I am looking for a good girl/man to marry", leave him/her immediately because they will not value your presence for the rest of their life. We are all good people in some ways and bad in the other ways. For me, I just looked for the “suitable” man. I value how the similarities between me and my partner more than if he is good or not. When I could find him, I would stop looking for someone more. It was not because I was not confident to find a better man. I wanted to focus to love the one I chose. This is why it is hard for me to get rid of a relationship I have now. I am very persistent with my choice. I can be very happy or I can be very sad when I decide to wait for him whole my life. That is the matter of people who don’t say “love” easily.
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