I Am A Victim Of Emotional Abuse And Verbal Abuse

My mom was verbally abusive. It was hurtful and made me cry. You would think I would be attracted to nice women who would treat me kindly. No, I am attracted to women who verbally abuse me.

The woman who was most cruel to me is the one I am most drawn towards. Her verbal abuse is especially stinging. She has called me ugly and a loser. Like my mom, she has a drinking problem and gets all the meaner when she drinks. Yet I feel very connected to her. She sent me a valentines card and told me she loves me. I know she really does, more than anyone she has ever met and I feel the same way about her.

I have broken up with her before because her abuse was too much for me. Now I miss everything about her,even her abuse. If we get together again I will try to take her abuse with a grain of salt. I just need to be calm and realize no matter what she is saying she is with the person she loves the most.

booboo · M

Wow... how sad .. if she really loved you, there would be no abuse, because she would value you .. i think you're mistaking "love" for "need" ..

Just recently, i came to realize my wife has abused me for a long time, but i didn't know it, i just thought it was normal relationship stuff, until i started telling a friend what she was saying and doing .. sometimes we need a neutral party to give us an objective opinion ..

You need to value yourself too .. you should never take abuse with a grain of salt .. IMHO