I Loved You Then, I Love You Now And I Will Love You Always

@SoFine carrying that through all situations and 'atmospheres' of 'vibrational difference,' so to say, I guess is a martial art?

Carrying 'home' around and into all situations (if possible).. or bringing a comfort to express that self-love is what I'm feeling as the nervousness to proceed through.
There is a 'ball'(energy) feeling, or allowing to be present when it is on, however. It's recognizable, smooth, and feels like, hmm.. life is good.

Though, persistent sticky 'failures' seem to embed, but maybe picturing them as being lines in a sand beach could help? Like they are not so permanent and fierce, and trying again is always an option. Those sand-lines seem more permanent than they likely really are sometimes. /long winded response.
Thanks for your words =]

@LomeMarsupial consider the persistent sticky failures, are sticky when mulled over after the event. We tend to hold on, then use them as "Why not to" justify getting hurt again.
With self love, that pressure is removed, we don't pressure the relationship to provide our inner core love, the relationship is then based on sharing life, sharing ups and downs. In long-term, we each push each others insecurities, not intentionally, yet we do. We either use these triggers to heal or blame our mate, then cheat or leave.
Yes, to grow can be frustrating, to grow and move out from the same consistent thinking, behaving needs pushing, then more freedom to be, than same stagnation of preventing hurt.

@waleskinder Dundee?