I Can Handle The Truth

@SmileSunshine there's a lot of relationship coaches on the net telling you you can heal your relationship. They make money from it. Bloggers mostly end up quitting and calling a day on the relationship, often after following the guru's advice to no good ends.
Many people end up with a "divorce avoidance plan" where they sweep it under the carpet and it (likely) happens again coz the reasons it happened to start off with have not been addressed.
If a partner is genuinely remourseful and the partners can learn to communicate better over time it can become a better relationship. But if that willingness to deal with difficult conversations, go through the pain, shame, and other negative emotions is not there, then you might as well cut your losses. Coz even after all that it's not guaranteed you'll get anything better than you had before the trust was broken.

Yup! That’s exactly what happened...he was talking to other women...I brought it up, he denied it. I gave him another chance and the second time around he actually met up with the girl and made an excuse. Nahhhh man, I don’t got time for that. Haha but you’re totally right. I really like your analogy regarding the outlook of a relationship. @lostinspice

Ive researched the subject thoroughly :)

I think it’s best to not focus on what went wrong but changing the mindset to not meant to be. @cmh7882