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I Have Been Feeling Very Down Lately

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My boyfriend of 6 almost 7 years now is moving next August to another city for school while I am still here then transferring to a different school in another town. I asked him what are we going to do about us and he said he hasn't even thought about it. I understand getting everything ready and dealing with this is all time consuming and everything but it kinda hurt knowing that us is just an afterthought. I have always felt that I had more feelings in this relationship then he had but I just thought that it was just a "guy" thing. I think that when he leaves we are going to have to break up and he is such an amazing guy and works so hard and doesn't let anything stop him. I know I am only holding him back but I don't want to not be together. I love him and he is my first everything and I can't have that with anyone else. I have been trying really hard not to let it get to me that we only have summer left and then he is gone. I try not to show that is hurts me every time he gets excited about leaving and telling me all he has left to do because I want to be there for him and be a part of this with him. I know that when I think of it I get a little teary and I don't know id I am just being over dramatic about all of this or a little selfish but it is how I feel about this whole situation. I want to be angry with him for being so smart and always moving forward lol but I can't. I am so proud of him and everything that he does. I don't even think that I can be friends with him when all of this is said and done because there are just too many memories that I have and I will always just want something more. I know I cant tell him any of this because I don't know if it'll make him feel bad or angry. I want him to be happy and excited. Even going into this relationship I knew he was always going to be moving forward and away from me because of the person he is , I think that I just kinda hoped that things would be a little different or it wouldn't have been so bad and painful. There is so much more I can say but this post is already getting a little long and I am starting to get into my feelings a bit -.-
22-25, F
+ 4 9 replies 33 views Mar 22, 2018 |
Pherick · 36-40, M
I hate to say it, but after being with someone for 7 years and he is planning on leaving you and then says this, [quote]I asked him what are we going to do about us and he said he hasn't even thought about it[/quote]

He is not planning on dating you much longer. My guess is that he would just leave saying "He it will all be OK", and then communication would break down an at some point, he would just break up with you.
iamnikki · 26-30, F
[@376875,Pherick] I forgot to mention that too. Doesn't sound like @HereToTalk is in his plans...
firefall · 61-69, M
[@376875,Pherick] my thought also - he already has one foot out the door, relationship-wise
iamnikki · 26-30, F
Why not just find someone else and move on? You don't have to stay with the first guy who has ever showed interest in you. People change as they get older and 6-7 years is a long time for a relationship, especially with folks your/my age...
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I would suggest that you try and find someone else and forget about him.
lasergraph · 61-69, M
The fact he hasn't given it any thought is a big red flag. It tells just how important the relationship is to him. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but my suggestion is don't settle because it feels comfortable.
Mert5356 · 36-40, M
Distance tends to separate people even in this day and age. If he doesn't have any plans or will to continue forward, it will probably break. I suggest you ask him if he wants to move forward and let him know how you feel. If you hold your feelings in, it may end up hurting more.
MrAverage1965 · 56-60, M
You should tell him how you feel.
hmmmmm very hard...

I have to agree with the others about his not having thought about you...though ofc he has, but prob doesn't want to "go there"...

The odd thing, for me, is that you apparently went into this relationship always knowing he was not going to be permanent...


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