I Find Many Reasons Why Life Is Good
Last month this is the question and concern I had....
I can't give meaning to my life. Nothing interests me, I have no ambition and the future does not interest me. What's wrong with me?
Well.... (My response) This month or what I've discovered...
Nice. Congratulations.
You are on the path of discovering your own self. Only when you get rid of ambitions, can your ego disappear. When you are fed up and bored of the outer world, then only you will want to look inside. And only then can you find out the answer to the question: Who am I?
The problem is that everyone around you, is doing something. Someone is getting married, someone is earning money, someone is travelling, someone is getting into relationships, someone is doing some business, or some charity work, etc.
Everyone is: something. Someone is an engineer, scientist, singer, doctor, whatever. Are you something? Lets say you are an officer. How did that make it better for you? You are still bored, uninterested and lost. So how can you say that people around you are in better situation? They are not. You are in a better situation because you are aware of the meaninglessness of life. You know that there is nothing outside. It bores you.
The thing is that we don’t want to know ourselves. Because we have been told that we should be something. Someone great. Someone important, someone powerful and talented. And we know that we aren’t. That is why we don’t want to be inactive. Try it. Keep your phone aside and sit inactively for a while and close your eyes and look at your thoughts and you will feel a discomfort, infact you will not even try this experiment. And you will quit. Why? Because you know that once you try it, your real face will be revealed. You will realize that you are not someone great that the world wants you to be. “A well known singer” is something that was thrown on you. “A powerful leader” was something thrown on you. Your name was thrown on you. But you are not that. You are something else, someone else. And this fact haunts you, because you aren’t powerful as the world thinks you are. And that’s why we don’t want to be inactive. We tend to want to do something. Inactivity makes us anxious.
And we start believing that having an ambition and keep pursuing it will make us someone great, and then only we can have peace. BUT we have no idea that the peace by, simply knowing who we are, is 10000000x more satisfying, pleasing and energizing. When you discover your real self, you are no longer limited by your fake identity, you are no longer bound by your so called fears. And you become unbeatable, unshakeable and Godlike.
It is more than normal that you are going through this. It is great.
So look inside. Remove all the layers of what has been told to you. Meditate for a while, observe your senses, feel the surroundings, try it. Observe your thoughts, and see where they lead to, and you will find your lost enthusiasm and energy and infact, will have more direction and passion. (maybe after months of daily peaceful meditation). Do it, don’t hesitate, it doesn’t cost anything other than time which you aren’t using anyway. There is nothing to lose.
Could be a number of things. As a teen, I've been through this more than once just going through a grind. I felt that everything would stay the same, I'd be stuck in the same old habits, and I would get sucked up into this boring cycle of repetition.
Lack of ambition or motivation or even interest can be a tough one to fix. I can't say I know what's wrong, but I can say it's absurdly common. Our world seems to be focused on bland entertainment above all else, with boring jobs and very little encouragement in the workplace, and all focus on what you friends are doing on social media and which celebrity did what with who. Bland, boring, and useless.
Perhaps the problem is that you, like me, have fallen into a grind. Have you always been this way? I doubt it. You don't have interests now, but it's easy to find them. Do something spontaneous and completely unnecessary, and you'll find something to at least fill your time. (Just remember: don't put your personal safety at risk.)
Learn something new. Read a book. When a thunderstorm hits, stand out there and watch it blow. Take a little initiative- it WILL help.
And one last thing: Don't worry about the future. Do something that will brighten up your day RIGHT NOW. That's what matters. I found my meaning in art and music and writing (and answering questions like these).
If you need something to fix bad moods and depression-like feelings, the medicine is out there, but don't depend on it. I've been through worse than simple depression, and the only real cure for a grind like this one is to bust out out of it. Here's a hint for you: get your heart rate up, and then watch for something beautiful. Don't sit still for too long.
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Sounds like depression to me. I get like this sometimes, and over the years I have learned strategies for dealing with it before it spirals out of control.
Anti-depressants for a shortish period of time can help you get your head back in the space for contemplating what you can do with yourself, and if anything triggered your spiral downwards in the first place. Some forms of counselling or talk therapy can help with this, but it's pointless to do in a depressed state, because your brain goes into 'yes but...' mode.
My depression stemmed principally from undiagnosed ADHD and Aspergers and coming to terms with certain family related issues. Once I separated that out and learned to live with them, the rest was all about living my life, goals and aspirations, friends and love etc - alongside these things that are lifelong parts of me. These days, St John's Wort for a month or so is enough to get me through bad periods, but it's different for everybody. But it does get better, and it does get easier, if you learn to live with it instead of fighting against it as though it is your enemy. It's not, it's most likely part of you, so give yourself some space to learn with it and find your direction.
I can't give meaning to my life. Nothing interests me, I have no ambition and the future does not interest me. What's wrong with me?
Well.... (My response) This month or what I've discovered...
Nice. Congratulations.
You are on the path of discovering your own self. Only when you get rid of ambitions, can your ego disappear. When you are fed up and bored of the outer world, then only you will want to look inside. And only then can you find out the answer to the question: Who am I?
The problem is that everyone around you, is doing something. Someone is getting married, someone is earning money, someone is travelling, someone is getting into relationships, someone is doing some business, or some charity work, etc.
Everyone is: something. Someone is an engineer, scientist, singer, doctor, whatever. Are you something? Lets say you are an officer. How did that make it better for you? You are still bored, uninterested and lost. So how can you say that people around you are in better situation? They are not. You are in a better situation because you are aware of the meaninglessness of life. You know that there is nothing outside. It bores you.
The thing is that we don’t want to know ourselves. Because we have been told that we should be something. Someone great. Someone important, someone powerful and talented. And we know that we aren’t. That is why we don’t want to be inactive. Try it. Keep your phone aside and sit inactively for a while and close your eyes and look at your thoughts and you will feel a discomfort, infact you will not even try this experiment. And you will quit. Why? Because you know that once you try it, your real face will be revealed. You will realize that you are not someone great that the world wants you to be. “A well known singer” is something that was thrown on you. “A powerful leader” was something thrown on you. Your name was thrown on you. But you are not that. You are something else, someone else. And this fact haunts you, because you aren’t powerful as the world thinks you are. And that’s why we don’t want to be inactive. We tend to want to do something. Inactivity makes us anxious.
And we start believing that having an ambition and keep pursuing it will make us someone great, and then only we can have peace. BUT we have no idea that the peace by, simply knowing who we are, is 10000000x more satisfying, pleasing and energizing. When you discover your real self, you are no longer limited by your fake identity, you are no longer bound by your so called fears. And you become unbeatable, unshakeable and Godlike.
It is more than normal that you are going through this. It is great.
So look inside. Remove all the layers of what has been told to you. Meditate for a while, observe your senses, feel the surroundings, try it. Observe your thoughts, and see where they lead to, and you will find your lost enthusiasm and energy and infact, will have more direction and passion. (maybe after months of daily peaceful meditation). Do it, don’t hesitate, it doesn’t cost anything other than time which you aren’t using anyway. There is nothing to lose.
Could be a number of things. As a teen, I've been through this more than once just going through a grind. I felt that everything would stay the same, I'd be stuck in the same old habits, and I would get sucked up into this boring cycle of repetition.
Lack of ambition or motivation or even interest can be a tough one to fix. I can't say I know what's wrong, but I can say it's absurdly common. Our world seems to be focused on bland entertainment above all else, with boring jobs and very little encouragement in the workplace, and all focus on what you friends are doing on social media and which celebrity did what with who. Bland, boring, and useless.
Perhaps the problem is that you, like me, have fallen into a grind. Have you always been this way? I doubt it. You don't have interests now, but it's easy to find them. Do something spontaneous and completely unnecessary, and you'll find something to at least fill your time. (Just remember: don't put your personal safety at risk.)
Learn something new. Read a book. When a thunderstorm hits, stand out there and watch it blow. Take a little initiative- it WILL help.
And one last thing: Don't worry about the future. Do something that will brighten up your day RIGHT NOW. That's what matters. I found my meaning in art and music and writing (and answering questions like these).
If you need something to fix bad moods and depression-like feelings, the medicine is out there, but don't depend on it. I've been through worse than simple depression, and the only real cure for a grind like this one is to bust out out of it. Here's a hint for you: get your heart rate up, and then watch for something beautiful. Don't sit still for too long.
18k Views · ·
Sounds like depression to me. I get like this sometimes, and over the years I have learned strategies for dealing with it before it spirals out of control.
Anti-depressants for a shortish period of time can help you get your head back in the space for contemplating what you can do with yourself, and if anything triggered your spiral downwards in the first place. Some forms of counselling or talk therapy can help with this, but it's pointless to do in a depressed state, because your brain goes into 'yes but...' mode.
My depression stemmed principally from undiagnosed ADHD and Aspergers and coming to terms with certain family related issues. Once I separated that out and learned to live with them, the rest was all about living my life, goals and aspirations, friends and love etc - alongside these things that are lifelong parts of me. These days, St John's Wort for a month or so is enough to get me through bad periods, but it's different for everybody. But it does get better, and it does get easier, if you learn to live with it instead of fighting against it as though it is your enemy. It's not, it's most likely part of you, so give yourself some space to learn with it and find your direction.
