I Am Getting Close To Fully Believing "' Love Is Not Real "'
Love, preservation, or satisfaction?
Firefighters and first responders are altruistic individuals. They are not the norm because they are risking their own self-preservation which is the basis of all of life. Therefore they deserve our greatest admiration and respect for looking out for the survival of our kind. I would say that those that act in altruistic ways do so because it is their heart’s desire to, it brings them inner satisfaction to be heroes to many individuals.
Another case of satisfaction is attraction. When you like someone before they go on to be your significant other there is something about them that brings satisfaction to one or most of your five senses.
What about our families? Our family are people that have given us safety, sustenance, and equipped us to remain alive. We trust our family, we know them better than anyone and so we say we love them. But this word “love” evidently just means satisfied by them. What about when someone in our family isn’t satisfying, it’s love because we still stick around right? It’s bias based on blood relation because even though you don’t enjoy the situation you stick around but you definitely wouldn’t for a stranger. It does go back to satisfaction because you think of all the ways this person has protected you or satisfied you in the past, and in the case of parents they remember their child as babies and seek to protect their child to have them remain alive regardless of how they act, although they may also not enjoy it, the bias of blood relation and what we’ve been taught remains.
Now let’s take it to this scenario. We say we “love” so and so but now they have become a burden, they pose a threat. They are neither pleasing, nor productive, nor harmless. Out of our own self preservation we flee or want them out of our lives, in order to remain alive. So those of us that are alive do so out of self-preservation and we seek the company of those that bring us satisfaction.
So love... what is that? I’ve heard the question, “If we love everybody what value does that place on love?” But to that I say, “If we don’t love everybody (and we don’t) then what does love mean but simply the love of self”? We wouldn’t stick around long term with someone who is not pleasing, productive, and harmless would we? What does this say?
Firefighters and first responders are altruistic individuals. They are not the norm because they are risking their own self-preservation which is the basis of all of life. Therefore they deserve our greatest admiration and respect for looking out for the survival of our kind. I would say that those that act in altruistic ways do so because it is their heart’s desire to, it brings them inner satisfaction to be heroes to many individuals.
Another case of satisfaction is attraction. When you like someone before they go on to be your significant other there is something about them that brings satisfaction to one or most of your five senses.
What about our families? Our family are people that have given us safety, sustenance, and equipped us to remain alive. We trust our family, we know them better than anyone and so we say we love them. But this word “love” evidently just means satisfied by them. What about when someone in our family isn’t satisfying, it’s love because we still stick around right? It’s bias based on blood relation because even though you don’t enjoy the situation you stick around but you definitely wouldn’t for a stranger. It does go back to satisfaction because you think of all the ways this person has protected you or satisfied you in the past, and in the case of parents they remember their child as babies and seek to protect their child to have them remain alive regardless of how they act, although they may also not enjoy it, the bias of blood relation and what we’ve been taught remains.
Now let’s take it to this scenario. We say we “love” so and so but now they have become a burden, they pose a threat. They are neither pleasing, nor productive, nor harmless. Out of our own self preservation we flee or want them out of our lives, in order to remain alive. So those of us that are alive do so out of self-preservation and we seek the company of those that bring us satisfaction.
So love... what is that? I’ve heard the question, “If we love everybody what value does that place on love?” But to that I say, “If we don’t love everybody (and we don’t) then what does love mean but simply the love of self”? We wouldn’t stick around long term with someone who is not pleasing, productive, and harmless would we? What does this say?
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