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I Have Relationship Troubles

So I don't know whether to take it as serious or not but my gf can't seem to open up to me about her problems. We've been dating for almost 6 months now and I'm really into her and I care about her a lot. She talks about her work problems and problems with her parents to me but the ones that I want to hear are more of her self esteem problems and her problems with herself. She sometimes has little outbursts like saying that she thinks she's ugly, fat, and disgusting (all of which is not true at all) and has even started crying before but she refuses to talk about it with me. Recently I had a really bad day and she wanted me to talk about my problems with her and I did. I told her about my low self esteem, etc. I just wish she would do the same and I'm not sure how to take it that she won't. I don't wanna force her to talk about it but she tends to hold in all of her emotions which isn't good and I think she'd feel better if she did talk about them.

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SweetDreamsRubi · 31-35, F

Just leave her be, you've only known each other for 6 months. You may be open but that doesn't mean she should if she's not ready. I don't like sharing any insecurities because I feel like people might agree or know what I dislike and bring it up... Shes just being protective of herself...if you keep telling her to share before shes ready it will push her away.

CallmeHopelessNotRomantic · 46-50, F

Whatever you do, don't try to force it. I can tell you nothing pushes me away faster than people who try to force me to talk about stuff. Not everything needs to be talked about some times. But also, you need to consider how she truly feels about you. When i really truly care, i don't shut them out.

MotherOfLove

Daniel1120

If she says that, then I suggest not asking her for it too much. You don't want her to think she is being forced into telling you, and I know you might want to hear about it, but maybe she will when she is ready. Right now, it sounds like she doesn't want to. Just try to be there for her the best you can for now.

Fantabulous · 46-50, F

It probably isn't just to you, if she is accustomed to keeping things inside then maybe it has just become her way of dealing with things.
When ones mind is conditioned to dealing with something in a certain way it takes active work to change that

MotherOfLove

Well, have you talked to her about it? Tell her how you feel about you wanting her to express herself more to you, because in all honesty, you just want to help her and listen to what she says

Daniel1120 · 26-30, M

@mystsriouswonder yeah I have and she just says "I don't wanna talk about it! If I don't wanna talk about it then you should respect that!"

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