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I have never been married

I’m single and looking, but it’s tough to find anyone near my age who is not only single but has also never been married. I have no desire to be someone’s second husband, or worse yet, someone’s stepfather. I want someone on the same playing field as I am, not to mention that my religious views don’t permit divorce and remarriage. The only time I would consider marrying a woman who’s been married before is if she were a widow.

One problem is that most women my age are married. I have two age ranges of women I could date. I could date women in their early 20s who haven’t been married yet. That would be ideal, but I don’t know many women that age, and most women that age don’t want to date a guy in his 30s anyway. The other option would be to date older women, like in their 40s, but the problem with them is that most of them are either divorced or postmenopausal, which leaves having children out of the question. I want my own children. And I don’t mean stepchildren.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Why are you starting to look now and not ten years ago ?

The older you get the harder it will be to find somebody who fits that bill. Just because most of us marry in our 20's if we want children.
Those in their 30's without are unlikely to want them.

I suspect your best course of action (given the parameters you've set) is either via church or perhaps specific dating sites specifically for older childless people. If such a thing exists.
Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
@Moonpenny Narrow is reaching 30+and expecting to be somebody's first !
Narrow is not expecting a 30+partner to not have children already.
Moonpenny · F
@Picklebobble2 Narrow meaning not all people who want children marry in their 20s and some people who want children don't marry at all.....
The trend nowadays is to marry in your late 20s, early 30s. Many people in their 30s want children, some being desperate for them for many reasons.
I'm sorry, but you come across as being patronising and pompous, to put it bluntly.
RopinTexan · 36-40, M
@Picklebobble2 Well, I did date in my 20s. My first relationship was with a woman 5 years older than I. She had been married before and is part of the reason I decided I’d never date another divorcee. We dated two years. After her, I did find a bachelorette who had no children, but she dumped me.

All the women at my church are married. I’m on several dating sites, but most of them don’t give the option to match only with women who have never been married. Do you know of any?
KuroNeko · 41-45, F
Wow you really narrowed down your options there. Good luck finding someone perfect who hasn't got any baggage.
SW-User
Lots of women like older men. I think the odds are in your favour.
RopinTexan · 36-40, M
@SW-User That’s true, my stepdad is ten years older than my mom. Maybe I should just go for women in their 20s.
SW-User
actually you can find many unmarried women of your age but they’re the career obsessed types and only date men like them so try to match with them
Keep looking, Texan. You'll rope a gal up soon enough.

 
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