I wish you well on your journey of coming out to the general public through your dress and actions. It is a BIG step and I hope that you have the support of a close loving partner to lean on. The general society is not used to anyone who changes streams in mid life. They are suspicious and get threatened that they too might one day wake up and realize that they too have been in denial..
I suspect that you have already spent a long time contemplating your sexuality and getting comfortable with your recent decision to go public (with your attire) to make a show of confidence and commitment..
I have had some intimate experience with a TOM Lesbian in my past who became a lover of my first hotwife. She was a BUTCH Lesbian when they met, but against her intuition, was seduced by my wife into a long term relationship. She changed her feelings about other woman over time. As the cuckold husband of her lover and partner, I was intimately involved with her transformation (much like ours) into a more manly role. She wore my clothes and hung out at our house parties to practice socializing. A sweet soul that could never stay a misogynist. She simply did not have close friends around when she was living out her real feelings and reacted negatively to all the social flack that she got (it was 30 yrs ago).
I wish you a much smoother path and a happier time..
