I Have a Question

Is it Ok to end up friendship with such friends who have always done their best to make you feel down ....and what if he/she again comes back to become friends with you when you have already ended up everything?

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Humanist321 · M

Hi Scott - It seems to me that you have to make a case-by-case judgment, but the general answer is sure, but only if the former friend is able to acknowledge in some way, whether formally or informally, that they are sorry and are ready to be a real friend, and if it is someone you care enough about to explore with them how they hurt you in the past by making you feel they were putting you down. Also be aware that maybe you are overly sensitive on the issue and their intention was not to put you down but you felt like they were.

scottamadore2 · M

@Humanist321 thanks a lot for such a detailed answer
I would like to bring this to your notice this person has similar friendship issues within our circle (I mean the persons we both know )I have one major weakness I end up things pretty quick if I realize the one is not upto the mark

SW-User

You can just have a little contact with them
Like tell them that you are friends but avoid spending time with that person

SW-User

This is best

scottamadore2 · M

@SW-User I really appreciate this answer ..but this is where I suck big time.. I am no good at pretending and as I said here earlier to one of the fellow mate that I end up things pretty quick once I realize the second person is not upto the mark

Pimpedcheerios88 · 31-35, F

Yes I think it is a really healthy thing to end friendships like that. When someone is just putting you down all the time, you need to let them go. And it's really tough. This friend will probably not say nice things to you when you do end it.

scottamadore2 · M

@Pimpedcheerios88 you are so right here .... this friend never admitted that being guilty ... Its just after ending up everything I realized a sort of boost in confidence beneath me

wudifu · 46-50, M

im going through the same dude....no don't do it....once you are a adult its not easy to change your ways or bend that tree to make it better....do u know what I mean

they already showed their true colours

just don't be ugly or nasty about it ....do it nicely

scottamadore2 · M

@wudifu well I believe its too late for not doing it now as I have taken a major step already here ... but my friend if u are going through the similar state its better to end it ... because I have really turned into something different after ending up .
coz of his/her repeated actions will sometime make you realize that you are looser though you will be not

SaintAdelaide · 31-35, F

No one has the right to make you feel down!

scottamadore2 · M

@SaintAdelaide Thanks

SW-User

It's very much okay

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