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I Hate Bad Parents

I met the daughter of a friend last night. Shes only ten. My friend is kind of single but has a "boyfriend" who tries way too hard to be a supportive husband. The mom and I have been friends for about two months now and she never mentioned him until last night, and I have seen her kiss an other man on the lips.

Regardless, she works two jobs that usually eat up her days, afterwards she goes to bars, and gets home around 2:00 am.

Yesterday when she did this my heart was broken. Me and her "boyfriend" got to her place early while she moved her car. As soon as we got through the door her daughter kept asking for her mom. She had spent the whole day under(a rather terrible) baby sitter and just wanted to see her mother, but yet when her mom got home she got angry at the babysitter and sent her daughter to bed.

At this point I was drunk so the details were a bit fuzzy, but I know that the daughter called her mom out for being angry, just by asking why, which just made her mother more angry, and ended up with the kid going to bed crying.

Sure 3:00 am is late for a kid to be up, but her daughter wanted to spend time with her mom, she missed her mom, and the mother just dismissed child after pretty much being away the whole day. Which afterwards the mom looked at me and said "Wear a condom"

I want to distance myself from the mother, but at the same time I would like to be some sort of sanity in the daughter's life. I felt so bad last night.
pianoisland
31-35, M
16 replies 140 views Jul 30, 2016
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SW-User
:( that's terrible. Too many bad examples of human beings are having kids :/ far too many. Maybe people should have to be checked to make sure they can provide stable and loving lives for kids 🤔
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SW-User
That is horrible and heartbreaking. Clearly the woman was not ready to be a mom, but don't judge her too harshly. She's doing the best she can. She could use a friend like you, a positive role model and one that she can trust her child with...which is the most terrifying thing about being a single parent.
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SW-User
That would be so good. Young girls need positive male role models in their life just as much as they need their mothers, so they grow up to be strong independent women.
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SW-User
@Chelseagirl you are so right! I think little girl learns early on from her male role models how a women should be treated :/
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pianoisland · 31-35, M
@Luckybird

Quite contrasting options there haha. I do enjoy her friendship, I just hate how she treated her child that night, it was rather cold. I have resolved to stay around though to be a positive influence.
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MrsPeterEvans · 31-35, F
I think I understand Ma'am @Laifu. She is not getting the attnetion and care she deserves
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SW-User
That is really sad. I don't understand how people can do that to their children.
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pianoisland · 31-35, M
@ChelseaGirl
Good point, I hope I can eventually baby sit on the weekends at least.
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SW-User
You sound like a really good person. I'm glad you are trying to help this girl.
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pianoisland · 31-35, M
@Rachellouisedavies
Yeah, my issue wasn't that the daughter had to go to bed, its that the mom didn't even bother to talk to her daughter. She just came in and said "Bed, now" no hi how are you doing, or how was your day, or asking why she was still up. Like 20 minutes of catching up wouldn't have hurt especially when her mom was gone the whole day.
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SW-User
Rachel- you seem to be missing the point here
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Selah ·
Stop being her friend or Pay her bills so she doesnt have to work so much. Not much else you can do besides judge her & who needs a friend like that?
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MrsPeterEvans · 31-35, F
Well ideally with a good babysitter she would be sleeping anyway. I would have got spanked up at that time but that's different @piano
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pianoisland · 31-35, M
@Rachellouisedavies
No she didn't get punished

@Laifu
Thanks!!
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MrsPeterEvans · 31-35, F
Ok that's good @piano but 3am is really late!!
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MrsPeterEvans · 31-35, F
Did she get punished then?
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