The second a man senses to lose grip over a woman’s loyalty, devotion, and faithfulness he goes on to label her as a sl**, a **ore, a bi***, and the negative labels go on. The second a woman senses to lose grip over a man’s loyalty, devotion, and faithfulness she too will negatively label him, the difference is that the labels for women are much harsh and degrading than for men. Here is the question: Do you love your significant other, or do you only “love” them if they are with YOU? We’re selfish aren’t we? We’re egotistical huh? We find it an insult if someone isn’t only obsessed with us. Why is that? Why are we so obsessed with possessing others? Different men and women play the part for security, resources, and entertainment/company. But let’s be real. We can get attracted to many people at the same time and we don’t take action on that attraction in fear of negative/painful consequences ranging from social to health. The end. Every single human in close proximity to us wants attention. They want you to listen, agree with them, and make them feel good. We want the same as well. If someone talks to you and you act indifferent what do you get? A negative label. If you shake your head no in disagreement to something the person talking to you holds dear, what do you get? A negative label. Will we ever get out of our own heads and ego and actually admire someone for being honest or having different desires than ours? Will we ever wish others well and the very very best even if we ourselves aren’t in the picture? Will we ever look at a person who isn’t harmful or forcing anyone to do something, as respectable even if they have a different lifestyle and world-view than us? The deconstruction of negative labels is simply this: negative labels are given to us when we don’t do, say, or look like others want. And these negative labels are subjective to others’ opinion of who we should be to appease them, nothing more and nothing less. That label is not who you are. You can’t be defined by a word, limited, or figured out. You are a form of expression that daily unravels in a different way, who leaves footsteps never to be tread upon, memories never to be forgotten, and hearts filled through your past or present presence in their lives.
I think you are in a special place, given the things that I have seen which you wrote. I am an older guy, looking to meet someone who is ready to have an ongoing relationship beyond all of the nonsense that seems to infect some relationships. Write me and lets at least talk to each other. It may be a new discovery all the way around.
