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I Am Constantly Torn Between Logic And Emotion

Mom: Hi just wanted to let you know that your cousin Andrew died today :(

Me: Hm... I'm not sure how to respond
Give them my regards. I don't have (my cousin's number)
You're better at words

Mom: Ok...pretty sad

Me: I'm aware its sad, but I'm not good at words. It usually comes out as if I'm an inconsiderate buttface.

Should I be sad? I'm not sad. I've seen him a couple times. Maybe a grand total of 5 months with him. Why aren't I sad? Am I a bad person for not being sad?

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wingedjaguar

Well, no. You can feel whatever it is you need to feel.

C9poke · 22-25, M

Would me being empathetic work? Or be respectful?

wingedjaguar

It could work for them I suppose they wanted to hear more from you

C9poke · 22-25, M

I honestly don't know what to say... I'm not good with heartfelt messages... I'm usually awkward and stare. Example: I went to my step cousin's funeral... I hugged the father and I had NOTHING to say, there were so many variables, and so many words, so many interpretations, so many tones I had to think of. I finally uttered "I'm sorry" after standing there for about five seconds.

wingedjaguar

I soo understand...

wingedjaguar

It's alright. Your presence should be enough.

C9poke · 22-25, M

S'what I've been told. I don't understand the logic behind it, but I'll show up when they have the funeral

wingedjaguar

Sometimes words aren't even necessary.

C9poke · 22-25, M

Hm? Does that play into that thing people say: "Actions speak louder than words"?

wingedjaguar

I think it can. Sometimes being present and aware is enough.

C9poke · 22-25, M

Interesting... Thank you