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I Am Constantly Torn Between Logic And Emotion

I feel like a terrible person. I let go of someone who I thought I was inlove with, a few days ago. Her and I didn't work out because of me. I feel torn between emotion and logic. Don't think she's a bad person. I'm the one who called it off.

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DarkCelestriaRose

Well, from what I've seen, this will probably happen to you many more times in your life. But the thing you just have to remember is that if you're a logical person, then that's just who you are. On the stereotypical side of it, men are generally more logically driven than women are. So you'll probably come across this many more times in your life.

C9poke · 22-25, M

Alright, I'll keep that in mind. That makes me feel, less of a jackass.

DarkCelestriaRose

Yeah, don't worry too much about it. My boyfriend's very logical and I'm very emotional, it causes a lot of fights. But just like you have to remember you're different from most (if not all) girls, you have to remember that they're different from you. So if a time comes when you really really want a relationship to work out no matter what, you'll have to try and put yourself into their shoes, and if they want it to work too, they'll try to do the same.

C9poke · 22-25, M

I'm good at emulating empathy, hopefully that helps some...?

DarkCelestriaRose

Maybe. Some girls are good at figuring out if you're faking it or not. When the time comes, you'll try and you'll try hard. If they see that, it's harder to be angry. But that doesn't mean they won't get angry. Especially if they're very emotional, then their mood swings will seem completely illogical to you, but completely logical to them and they may not know they're doing it. I do that far too often.

C9poke · 22-25, M

I somewhat understand how people think, both genders. I've lived with women all my life and very few men. Thanks for the advice/heads up

DarkCelestriaRose

No problem. Just don't get discouraged when something doesn't work out because either you didn't feel anything or they didn't, even if you did at first. It happens.

C9poke · 22-25, M

Just hurts my pride :/ (I have too much of it, so I guess that's good in a way?)

DarkCelestriaRose

Lol it can be. You'll figure out that pride isn't the best thing to have in a relationship though, well too much that is. Some girls like a guy with a good amount of pride, but we always find ways to make a guy feel like "less of a man" with our requests at times. Though most of us don't mean it

C9poke · 22-25, M

I'm fine with humiliation. I've done some things... Due to losing bets with my sisters. I also mean pride as in, loyalty in a way...? I feel like I broke a few promises. I don't like quite enjoy breaking promises, or hearts (metaphorically) for that matter.

DarkCelestriaRose

Oh I see. Well most relationships with teenagers don't last for a very long time, but there are some that can sense if something will last or won't. Maybe you can try and predict if something will last or not? Like if you don't think something will work out, then don't pursue it. It worked out for a few of my friends and myself

C9poke · 22-25, M

I predicted it not lasting long. I'm not completely blinded by emotions, I prefer not to. Hence why I don't get involved with it often, however hormones and the like say otherwise

C9poke · 22-25, M

I don't know, maybe I'm desperate for a relationship... Possibility. I don't know :p All I know is, I'm sorry to her for making her feel the way I've made her feel.

DarkCelestriaRose

Well, if you don't think it'll last then don't even try it. If you don't think it'll last long you're less likely to put a lot of effort into it. I chose this method to avoid heartbreak, but a lot of guys choose this method because it causes less trouble for them.

C9poke · 22-25, M

I should've just avoided it. I agree. I shall do that from now on. Thanks for your advice.

DarkCelestriaRose

No problem

C9poke · 22-25, M

Is it cool if I added you to a circle? You seem like a cool person

DarkCelestriaRose

Sure, go ahead.

loveisdeadly

That's such an uneducated, sexist view. Fuck this noise. I'm a grown ass woman who is NOT illogically emotional, and I happen to be incredibly logical. What kind of request could possibly make a guy feel like less of a man?

loveisdeadly

Avoid being with someone after thinking about and figuring out why the person is not right for you. Everyone you meet will be Miss wrong until you find the one Mrs. Right

DarkCelestriaRose

Depends on the guy. But I did say "most" not "all". I said "if not all" because most girls in his and my age group act as such. Anyway, my boyfriend sometimes feels like "less of a man" when I try to give him/buy him food when he doesn't have the money to do so or something like that. Something that interferes with his hunter/provider thing. The guys where I live are very old fashioned, so they tend to be this way.

loveisdeadly

That has nothing to do with any hunter or provider thing. That has everything to do with gender roles/masculinity issues that were constructed by society based on religion. Regardless, well said little lady.