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I Am So Fed Up and Frustrated

Am so fed up and I do not know what to do. People are so ungrateful.am not so good talking about my friends but it's too much. My friend had problems she just broke up with her husband and she needed a job and a place to stay. I told her to start working in my shop and I also got her a place to stay. But what really breaks my heart is this lady has forgotten her problems and how I helped her. I wake-up early in morning at 6am and go to town shopping but Tue lady opens the shop at 10am yet we have to open the shop at 8am and some clients call me early in morning when need clothes. And she opens up so late and she is always sleeping. I come back at the shop after shopping I find her sleeping and she can sleep the whole day. I have tired so hard to talk to her but she doesn't change. What should I really do because am thinking of telling her to look for a job somewhere else. I need advice

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Mamapolo2016 · F

Sit her down and spell it out for her. “this is my livelihood.”

The shop opens at 8, or 9 or whatever it is. 8 doesn’t mean 8:15. If my customers count on the shop being open and it isn’t open, they may try one more time - then they’ll shop somewhere else.

I can only help you if I am in good shape. You’re cheating both of us.

I suspect she’s dealing with post-breakup depression (all the sleeping?) but she needs to clearly understand YOUR situation. Or maybe her thoughtless self-indulgent behavior is the cause of the divorce,

Be clear. If you don’t a-b-c, then you are forcing me to fire you. It will be your choice, not mine.

Kind but firm.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

@Munirah256 Don’t blame you. To be a good friend doesn’t mean you have to be a door mat.

Good luck.

Munirah256 · F

@Mamapolo2016 you are right and sometimes when she do something bad and I try to tell her this is not good she gets so mad at me

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Munirah256 😅 I never met her and already I don’t like her:

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

Bottom line to me is you have done what you can... Now it's affecting you financially...I think she needs to move on

Munirah256 · F

@ozgirl512 you are right but she says am sorry all the time. Its effecting and some times customers wake her up when she sleeping and things are getting lost from the shop

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

@Munirah256 you have tried and that's all you can do... She is not trying and you are losing business...I do believe we need to help our friends, but I also believe they need to also help themselves...a question to you... Is she?

SW-User

She sounds withdrawn and depressed...

Munirah256 · F

@SW-User she was working well now she changed

xixgun · M

Point out to her, that she is on her own now and everything depends on her. If she can't keep a job with her friend, how can she ever hope to keep one with someone who's not?

MellyMel22 · F

[i][c=#BF0080]That’s an awkward position to be in. If it’s your business, I would tell her to find another job. [/c][/i]

Munirah256 · F

@MellyMel22 I have tired to tell her but she been saying sorry all the time. I think she is doing this because she is older than me and may be she thinks she owns the business.

MellyMel22 · F

@Munirah256 [i][c=#BF0080]I would tell her you’re losing business and that you cannot have that. And honestly, I wouldn’t want her living with me if she couldn’t at the least show up on time for work after being given a job and place to live. I understand she may be depressed, but she shouldn’t be taking advantage of a friend who is helping. [/c][/i]

Synyster · 51-55, M

If she was a true friend, she wouldn't put you in that situation. She's taking advantage of your kindness. Fire her.

Munirah256 · F

@Synyster yes she is and it bothers me a lot

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