I Am So Fed Up and Frustrated

I've been in a online relationship for close to 5 yrs off & on. We finally met in person last year (may 15th actually), & have spent time together once since then. He keeps saying he'll come see me but something always happens. He says he's looking for a job in my area, even has me sending him job applications when I find one but he doesn't seem to get the applications in on time, forgets a paper that needed to be seen or just doesn't get the call backs.
I'm becoming paranoid, I've already decided that if this doesn't work out.... I'm not trying again. I'm too old for this crap!