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I want to find the guy that hurt her as a child.

My wife had a very bad childhood. Things that happened to her back then still effects her to this day. It makes me so sad and I can’t do anything to help her but be there. It’s taking a toll on my life and our relationship but, I love her very much and will be there for her and do the best I can.

The one guy named Jim had the biggest impact on her as a child. No one knows where he is or what he is doing. I would do anything for the chance to meet him somewhere not to just beat him in the face but honestly just to talk to him...
“Why did you do this to her?”
“Do you have any idea about the damage that has been done?”
“Are you sorry?”
I think me meeting with him would bring closure but am going to respect the wife wishes and not to take any action. I guess I am just helpless. I am the one that has to watch her suffer. We can’t do anything what married couples do like love cause just the littlest bit of intimacy will cause ptsd flares. She always feels bad about it but I am trying my best so she knows it’s okay.

Anyways sorry guys just had to get that out. I appreciate all the support like always
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I feel for you!

The damage selfish arseholes do is so hard to repair!

I understand her fear....

... But.i also understand your thoughts on facing him!

💜
JS1992 · 31-35, M
@OogieBoogie thanks
@JS1992 on her behalf - you're doing a wonderful job being patient and jusy being there - good on you! 👍👍👍
JS1992 · 31-35, M
@OogieBoogie I really do appreciate it. I am doing the best I can
@JS1992 and you're doing the right thing.

You can't fix this - only she can.

Amd tje fact that you See her beauty beyond the broken is amazing.

I'm so hoping she learns to re- evaluate.... And see you for the person that you are, not the shadow that haunts her . 💜
JS1992 · 31-35, M
@OogieBoogie very well said. And we are working on it. Started therapy about 3 months ago so will be a very slow process but hopefully she will be free from this
@JS1992 wish you luck.

Trauma is hard to let go.

It can be triggered by tje smallest thing.

But trust means everything - you're doing it right 👍
JS1992 · 31-35, M
@OogieBoogie that is a relief thank you ☺️