I Hate Egoistic People

I agree. The people you are talking about are defeatists. We can't help them. They believe they need help, but they can't accept it, because they are defined, in their own minds, be their misery; without it, they have nothing at all to talk about, and that isolates them further. You see how they are here? That is very likely how they are with their real life acquaintances. Which is why they are lonely and people let them down.
This doesn't mean they don't deserve our pity, but we cannot help them so it's best to say I'm sorry you're unhappy, I wish I could help you, but I'm not qualified. And move on.

I do have compassion. But this is more asking to be pitied.. I can't tolerate it. I talked to a guy and in his EVERY message he wrote how misery and though his life is, how his friends have betrayed him, how no one likes him, how he does good to people but gets nothing in return etc
And I tried, I really tried, writing him how he should first love himself and then seek for friends who won't betray him, how he shouldn't do good if he expects something in return because let's be honest, that's not the point of being good, and how he should get up, try for what he wants, how he's old enough to know what he likes and wants and should do those things but he just kept repeating his story over and over, repeating how misery his life is, how though it is blah, blah..
I am usually a patient person but this guy obviously just needs someone to listen to him and give him compliments he wants, tell him how he's great and he can do that and so on.. (if there is someone who will sacrifice himself/herself and tell all this stuff that won't necessarily happen, feel free to message me and I'll try to connect you two somehow) Because I really can't. I lost my nerves writing to that guy and in the end I told him he's pain in the ass. He didn't quite understood what I was saying before tho he understood he should be insulted by this. I actually believe he didn't even read all that and that he just kept writing his own story because he's too egocentric and leaks of attention but hey, that's probably just me..

@A7xqueen Yess! And whatever you do it makes you feel guilty and like a bad person. It's horrible 😖 Yeah, we could have talked to the same guy, very likely.
@Serenitree I agree! And good you said! I just hope those people could see more than their nose in their reflection on the mirror 😢😞
@LastingSunshine Yeah, unfortunately. The worse is they keep telling other people they want help, they need help, they need other PEOPLE to help them but no,no, noo; they won't try and fight themselves. 😑 It really is frustrating

Totally agree, and if you try to convince them that they're not the most depressed person they think you have no empathy

GentleReader, calm down. You'll have a stroke. This is a stranger. Someone who may not be able to handle your drama. A stranger who has nothing to offer that you are willing to accept. A young girl like you. Maybe you need to talk to a doctor. We here, can't prescribe medications for anxieties such as you seem to exhibit. Maybe you need more than we are able to give.

@A7xqueen I know, right? I got frustrated with all of this. I don't want to lie to him and tell him it'll be okay because with the next step down, I have a feeling he'd cry and be like ''you betrayed me too, you said it'll all be okay, sniff, sniff''. I know depression is hard, but this is really too egoistic he's writing to me.

@LastingSunshine Yes!! I'm a straightforward person and I told him everything and how he should try for what he wants but no, he's a good but misunderstood soul and I'm very rude, blah, blah..

@mico I know exactly what you mean. Think we might if talked to the same guy (won't name names) but it was a frustrating position because even if I ignored him I felt guilty. Some people can just trap you in their misery bubble 😒

Attention seekers are annoying, but needing compassion is something different.
If you want nothing to do with whiners, I get it, but, you should try to find some compassion in you.

Yeah I like helping people who are down. But there's some people who are just impossible. They're like poison, they just end up making me depressed.

@micojka I talked to a guy like that and I ended up feeling down and frustrated, I can't help someone when they don't want to help themselves

I'm guessing it was you she was talking about gentle 😒

Okay, enough! Now I a just blocking you, you cruel human! You have no sympathy, you're rude, arrogant and unacceptable, how can you do this? 👎 I hope people don't fall in your 'I am friendly' lie.

When I was just trying to help. Yet I'm the bad guy now. 😒