I Am a Sister
"You're the reason we wanted to get adopted here."
I don't know if I'm more flattered or horrified that they said that to me. My family is full of awful people. I'm no better than any of them. I found that out over the years. Awful in my own ways, because I don't hurt kids. Of course, these kids weren't from good families either so a less dangerous environment with a person involved who they decided was trustworthy (I'm not, so it breaks my heart that they thought that) must have appealed to them.
The boys my parents adopted are turning out just like my dad. I couldn't help them to avoid his influence. The girls, all three of them, were closer to me. I tried to be supportive and was there for them when they needed help.
Now I think it's better that I don't help as much. I've left them a little unprepared. They're always asking me what they're supposed to do/how they should handle certain situations that they should already know how to.
"You're 18. You decide. What do YOU want to do? What do YOU think you should do?"
One of them gets really upset with me for those questions. I should have been asking them all along. I shouldn't have constantly tried to do things for them and give them things. Even just to try to help. I should have made them think about it and earn everything. Sometimes you think you're helping but you're really not doing them any favors.
I don't know if I'm more flattered or horrified that they said that to me. My family is full of awful people. I'm no better than any of them. I found that out over the years. Awful in my own ways, because I don't hurt kids. Of course, these kids weren't from good families either so a less dangerous environment with a person involved who they decided was trustworthy (I'm not, so it breaks my heart that they thought that) must have appealed to them.
The boys my parents adopted are turning out just like my dad. I couldn't help them to avoid his influence. The girls, all three of them, were closer to me. I tried to be supportive and was there for them when they needed help.
Now I think it's better that I don't help as much. I've left them a little unprepared. They're always asking me what they're supposed to do/how they should handle certain situations that they should already know how to.
"You're 18. You decide. What do YOU want to do? What do YOU think you should do?"
One of them gets really upset with me for those questions. I should have been asking them all along. I shouldn't have constantly tried to do things for them and give them things. Even just to try to help. I should have made them think about it and earn everything. Sometimes you think you're helping but you're really not doing them any favors.
