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I Feel Like I Dont Exist

So it's been a while since I've been online and not a lot has changed. I am still feeling as if I am invisible and not as important as my partners mobile phone. What's been happening? Well he seems to spend most of the time glued to his phone, he plays games and constantly checks Facebook etc, but it is making me feel like I'm not as important as the trivial crap on Facebook. Like today, I was looking online for things for our daughter and he was more interested in his phone, I had to actually get rather snappy with him before he even bothered to acknowledge what I was saying. I just feel so worthless. And I also feel like I am on my own with everything because unless it is on his phone then he doesn't seem to be bothered. I've recently found out that I am pregnant and I feel like I am going to be the one who sorts everything for the baby because he spends too much time messing about on his games and Facebook. I don't want to be this unhappy anymore and I have been avoiding speaking to him about it but I feel like I can do this no longer. I honestly feel like I am about to snap with him. Even now I have just heard his phone vibrate, he is sleeping, and it is making me angrier by the minute because I know as soon as he wakes up he is going to check his phone and spend more time on pointless crap than engaging with me. And it isn't even as if he speaks while he is on his phone, there are times when I have to repeat myself two/three times because he is that focused on whatever crap is on his phone than what I am saying to him, he does this when we go to see his parents too and it makes me feel like I don't matter to him. The other thing is that I don't want our daughter growing up to think that daddy spent more time on his phone than with her, it saddens me to even think that, and the last thing I want is him to be glued on his phone when the bay arrives because I will need his help.

I know mobile phones are a part of everyday life these days but surely they shouldn't be making a negative impact on relationships as much as this?
daydeeo61-69, M
You are valuable. He needs to get his priorities straight.
You MUST talk with him. I know that will be difficult, but your relationship is at stake. In fact, the status quo is that you have no relationship.
He needs a serious wake up call.
If you really are of that little importance to him, you're better off alone until you find the person who will recognize and value your true worth.
Good luck. 馃挭
MontanamanM
@daydeeo best answer!馃憤
Mguinm51-55, F
@daydeeo I agree with everything you said.
Jennifail31-35, F
Thanks for all the replies, I really appreciate it. I'm glad that people understand where I am coming from and don't see it as attention seeking. I am far from a selfish person, I always put other peoples needs before my own and I am always avoiding confrontation because I would rather be unhappy than seeing someone I care about be hurt because I have told them how I feel. I know this is a very unhealthy way to live...
ninjavu51-55, M
If he does this with others too then it's not something *you* should take personally, but it is a sickness of our modern times, thanks to the Zuck that sucks.

Simple solution that isn't simple to execute: Find someone better. Good luck. 馃
wyolatex41-45, M
Funny, (or not), but this sounds like my wife鈥檚 obsession with her phone.
wyolatex41-45, M
@Jennifail Yes, and the relationship suffers because of it. I think it鈥檚 shows where the priorities actually are.
Jennifail31-35, F
@wyolatex it certainly does... it hurts not to be the main priority.
wyolatex41-45, M
@Jennifail I am sorry to hear that you are experiencing this. It is a struggle and it sounds like your guy may not be the most mature as it seems like he is escaping to not deal with issues in your relationship. I am similar and feel like I am not being heard when I try and voice my side. Good luck to you!
Pseudonym26-30, M
Sounds to me like he's either bored or depressed. It's a form of escapism probably.

 
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