I Am Grieving the Loss of a Friendship
We became friends at work. She has worked the hospital for over 30 years. I was there for ten years. Toward the end of my time there, as my job was phased out, I faced being forced into early retirement. It was a tough time for me. I wasn't well. I came to work each day sick and in pain. I knew I wanted to keep up my friendship with her. So I went to see her and told her I hoped to continue our friendship after my retirement.
She was so kind and supportive. She not only understood how I felt about having my career cut off but she was a nurse so she fully understood the health problems I was dealing with. She knew I had found a new doctor and he had run a bunch of medical tests on me. I was going to see him the next day for a consultation to come up with a new plan for getting rid of my medical woes. She told me to call her right away to let her know what happened.
As we parted that day, I thanked her for being such a supportive friend during this difficult time. She assured me she valued my friendship and would always want to be my friend. She said, "Never forget that I am your friend and that I will always be your friend no matter what happens."
Then she stopped speaking to me forever.
It took me several terrible days and quite a few phone messages, emails, text messages, one snail mail letter and many inquiries to mutual friends and acquaintances to believe this. But she cut me off and dropped from her life 100%.
Rumor had it that her dominant bully boyfriend of less than a year had taken my information off her phone and forbid her to talk to me. He had done that to her regarding other long time friends. But it is hard to believe that a woman in her 60s, a competent professional, a beautiful slim woman with an outgoing personality would do this.
Whatever happened, I am still sad about it. I miss her. And, yes, I have made a few attempts to get in touch with her over these last four years. She is out of my life. I will likely never see her again. Some days I am still angry at her. I felt so betrayed. And it happened at such a bad time. I lost a friend. I don't know why. And I am still sad about it after four years.
She was so kind and supportive. She not only understood how I felt about having my career cut off but she was a nurse so she fully understood the health problems I was dealing with. She knew I had found a new doctor and he had run a bunch of medical tests on me. I was going to see him the next day for a consultation to come up with a new plan for getting rid of my medical woes. She told me to call her right away to let her know what happened.
As we parted that day, I thanked her for being such a supportive friend during this difficult time. She assured me she valued my friendship and would always want to be my friend. She said, "Never forget that I am your friend and that I will always be your friend no matter what happens."
Then she stopped speaking to me forever.
It took me several terrible days and quite a few phone messages, emails, text messages, one snail mail letter and many inquiries to mutual friends and acquaintances to believe this. But she cut me off and dropped from her life 100%.
Rumor had it that her dominant bully boyfriend of less than a year had taken my information off her phone and forbid her to talk to me. He had done that to her regarding other long time friends. But it is hard to believe that a woman in her 60s, a competent professional, a beautiful slim woman with an outgoing personality would do this.
Whatever happened, I am still sad about it. I miss her. And, yes, I have made a few attempts to get in touch with her over these last four years. She is out of my life. I will likely never see her again. Some days I am still angry at her. I felt so betrayed. And it happened at such a bad time. I lost a friend. I don't know why. And I am still sad about it after four years.
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