Don't mind me, I'm just being over-dramatic. Scurry along.
So yesterday I made a point that I was cleaning out my room and moving boxes of junk inside, because my step-mother decided it would be okay to just randomly drop them off at my moms place. One of these boxes was a special kind of pain to drag up the staircase- I've lifted calves lighter than that thing.
Anyway.. I get to the top of the stairs and I open the box; inside are school year books, old composition notebooks, some belts, random toys, and some childhood drawings.
I was looking at these drawings and I realized four-year-olds are [i]idiots[/i].
A fair amount of those papers consisted of comics or themes of heroism in my father/a father-like-figure. After my parents divorce, my dad wasn't around to take care of my brother and I when my mom was drunk; we'd live with her most of the week and visit my father Wednesdays and every other weekend. So all I really understood was that my mom slept a lot when I was at her house, then my dad would pick me up and we'd go to his place and I could eat fresh food and drink water and take a shower.
In short, when I was with him, my basic needs were met. Which is an [i]important [/i] thing, to feed your kid. And doing those things a parent is expected to do is what made me believe that my dad would do anything for me.
Fourteen year later, I'm dragging a giant box that weighs half as much as I do up a flight of stairs by myself because he can't say "no" to his wife.
I get that people aren't perfect. And I'm not really complaining. I just think it's kind of funny how all of this turned out.
Sidenote; look at all the stuff I just carried up the staircase. I feel macho :0
I guess it would have been more polite to ask you first if you wanted that stuff versus just dumping it on you. But, on the other hand, it was a kind gesture. She was giving you the option to sort through and keep the things that might retain meaning for you or something to pass on in the future. If these reasons aren't applicable to you then, GF, you shoulda just kept the garbage where it was instead of lugging it up the stairs and arranged to have your boyfriend come over with his 4 wheel drivin' F350 monster truck with the 3 foot lifters and take this pile of crap to the dump. You could have rewarded him with an ice cream cone after that! Nothing like turning an inconvenience to some romance, no?
The saddest day in any child's life is when they realise their folks will never be what they hoped/needed them to be. Certainly true in my case ! You needed your dad to be strong and comforting and show everybody what a great carer he could be. What a great father he could be. What a great MAN he could be ! And yet it probably feels that the women in his life have been such a disappointment. Why would ANY man stay with a woman who seems to care so little ? ....Having watched my father do the same, probably one of the reasons I've been single 22 years !
Yeah I'm kind of the same way. I've never had a major interest in dating- lately I've been wondering if that's just naturally how I am or if it's because I've yet to see a relationship I'd want to have myself, if that makes sense.
