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I Lusted After Someone I Can't Have

1000 times. And some of them would have been the "right one"; good for me, kind, flexible, attractive on the inside AND outside, but certain that I couldn't be with them I sought or accepted the attention of those that would be with me and often that has been a disaster. So damned if you do, damned if you do the other way.
My friend told me a long time ago that I should almost never be with the women that would choose me because to most of them I am a beacon of stability, and they're shipwrecks. I damn well can't MAKE the women who don't want to be with me suddenly want to so maybe I am supposed to be alone...

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Everybody is damaged. Some are more damaged than others. How do you know some of the women you lusted after were the right ones for you? Until you really get to know someone intimately, it's all a crap shoot. Next time, follow your gut and make an attempt to connect with one of those women instead of the ones you deem disasters. Sometimes you need to step out of your comfort zone. You won't know if it's right or wrong until you try.

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@zmedleff1: LOL! Classes for adults -- in which you can meet women who might have the same interest as you. Such as yoga, painting, photography, cooking, ... what are your interests and see if there are continuing education classes in your area. Or, there is a website I've been trying to get a friend who lives in another state to take a look at called Meetup. There are a number of different activities and interests to choose from. http://www.meetup.com/ Anyway, just trying to offer up some options that you may not have considered before.

xmedleft · 51-55, M

Ahhh, Well I don't have frivolous money, but actually I GIVE instruction in some of such classes, I am a performance poet and I encourage others to get into it and work on their craft, sometimes through courses.

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Frivolous is a matter of opinion. If it is something you have a passion for, it's not frivolous, and you will meet women who you have something in common with. Meetup doesn't necessarily cost anything. Depends upon what you are interested in. Hiking or walking with other people is usually free. Performance poetry is something that could introduce you to a woman with the same interest. AND, you know pupils always crush on their teachers. But, I won't push you. If you prefer to think you deserve to be alone, that's your choice.

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