I Am Not The Other Woman

@SW-User This could be correct in some people's viewpoints.

@Solostance people are moving into open marriages ,where husband and wife are as much the other man and woman as any other boyfriend or girlfriend....

Some people are moving into open marriages, where husband and wife both are aware that they are in an open marriage. It's no fun knowing that the door is open to be in an open marriage, when your spouse declines to offer it.

@SW-User Have you recently read the Surviving Infidelity Forums? If the posters of the group had knowledge that their marriage was open or it's considered 'normal' to have a boyfriend or girlfriend in a marriage, those posters wouldn't be hurt and confused with the next steps of their lives.

People actually have feelings. Despite what other people may believe or want to think, there are people who actually are dumbfounded when an affair is exposed. People actually have feelings. People actually cry and look back over a life that was filled with lies. People can actually 'love' and 'commit' to marriage.

Are the people that you mention, consist of people who are betrayed or the ones who are either in or want an open marriage or the other woman or other man?

Reading stories of heartbreak over infidelity is real and a hurt is natural to 'people'.

I know that ow/om have been betrayed...they've been hurt over infidelity in a relationship but does inflicting that same pain onto others make cheating 'normal'?

@Solostance open marriages are always both ways ...n both partners consent for physical proximity with other people , but that is consensual and doesn't disturb their marriage or emotional bond .it's just a means to add some spice to life

@SW-User "Spice to life" "both ways"...No harm, no foul.

I'm discussing betrayal.

@Solostance there is no betrayal in open marriages.
But yes betrayal is wrong ,u should be honest n give other person the freedom too

@SW-User When there is an open marriage, both parties are in agreement and have rules and such.

When you are betrayed, you are unaware of a relationship outside of your marriage. Hurts even the more when the wayward spouse pretends to work on the marriage by going to IC but all the while still keeping his relationship with the other woman.

@Solostance yes people should be honest or just move on with other person ,if they are so much attracted to the other woman/ man ,but the problem is they want everything to remain in their lives ....they won't leave their "on paper" family and also want to enjoy n at times are more emotionally attached with this other person.
So they cheat themselves, their spouses and the other person or persons involved.
But if people are open minded and in open relationship , things will be easier and no heart breaks