reallyfull · 41-45, M
CheerfullyCurious · 46-50, F
I removed myself from there recently. It is not fair to even have a dating profile if you are not ready for a relationship or if you are not there for casual sex. There are a lot of fakes on dating sites but many geniun people with real feelings. I was only looking for friendship because i just recently came out of another relationship. It realized that i was in the wrong. People say "yeah friendship is fine" but they do hope for something more - why else on a "dating site". I say if you just want friendship - find it somewhere else - a dating site is for dating. There are many other places where you can make friends.
lasergraph · 70-79, M
Motives are hard to determine sometimes. My brother-in-law tried dating sites after his wife passed. His main reason was simply he was lonely. He took the wife passing very hard. He would have jumped at a relationship but he had some health issues and had trouble finding someone who took him seriously. He passed away too about a year ago, he just gave up. He said he had no reason to stay.
My brothers sorta of passed the same way. He didn’t have to die but didn’t feel he had a reason to live. Heartbreaking. He was just 48 @lasergraph
lasergraph · 70-79, M
@Ipleadthe5th I think that happens a lot.
I've done online dating. With SOME success and some failures. I'm actually engaged to someone I met on a dating site. But we actually dated and got to know one another and enjoyed and looked forward to spending time together.
Having said that, I've had everything from women just wanting casual sex, to wanting money, wanting to make babies (not just sex, but sex with intent to get pregnant) on FIRST date, women who were 9 months pregnant but never mentioned it, a relationship with someone married and still living with husband (hid that well) and even met her teen kids and parents, was asked to take a woman and her son out to eat because they had no food, one asked to stay the night with me then move in (FIRST DATE!), One kept saying (I know I'm ugly, but....). One lied about her age by like 6 years (I was 35, she said 29, she was really 23, she got SMASHED drunk at a bar. It's crazy. Just...crazy.
In this busy world it IS a tool.
Having said that, I've had everything from women just wanting casual sex, to wanting money, wanting to make babies (not just sex, but sex with intent to get pregnant) on FIRST date, women who were 9 months pregnant but never mentioned it, a relationship with someone married and still living with husband (hid that well) and even met her teen kids and parents, was asked to take a woman and her son out to eat because they had no food, one asked to stay the night with me then move in (FIRST DATE!), One kept saying (I know I'm ugly, but....). One lied about her age by like 6 years (I was 35, she said 29, she was really 23, she got SMASHED drunk at a bar. It's crazy. Just...crazy.
In this busy world it IS a tool.
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abe182 · 51-55, M
@Ipleadthe5th yes I want something between the that I mentioned. Are you seeking a relationship, is that what you mean by a spiritual connection?
I do not want something that is labeled or someone I have to answer to , but am more interested in what someone is feeling or thinking or what their hopes for the future are. I want to talk about passions in life and what is important to them. I have been talking to one guy for over a year but we only met in person a couple months ago. He is really cool but completely avoids and ignores things that concern me. I know I am the problem. I just want more than sex and fun.
abe182 · 51-55, M
@Ipleadthe5th I don't think you're the problem. I have that similar problem it's always one way. Keep looking.
HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
GeniUs · 56-60, M
PoF wasn't that big back then (in the UK anyway) it only came to my attention toward the end of my dating time and I had a favourite (pay)site on which I'd met some good, serious people. Of course there were players/wasters too but after meeting one of them you had 2 choices; either you let it affect your decision to date or your learnt from it and carried on. The people who end up in relationships are the ones who never ever stop looking and the old saying 'it'll happen when you least expect it(stop looking),' doesn't hold true anymore because there are people actively looking to get there before you, for both the right and wrong reasons (looking for relationships or just sex or free meals etc.)
As I said above it worked for me, my partner and I have been together for about 8 years now.
As I said above it worked for me, my partner and I have been together for about 8 years now.
@Quimliqer I have actually been pretty lucky. Everyone I have dated, have sort of morphed into cool friendships organically .
@GeniUs Not always. But yes there are slime balls that would for sure. There are guys that are honest in a way that they avoid the real questions in a charming way. But if one is smart, they can pick up on what someone is putting down.
GeniUs · 56-60, M
I was surprised when meeting dates how many had stories of being 'tricked' into relationships with married men or people who simply used them for sex. If you never get to see where they live or are available only at specific times these are huge giveaways!
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
@StevetheSleeve do you mean procreate? I do not recreate on the first date or the last. LOL Nor procreate.
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
@Ipleadthe5th LOL, no I didn't mean procreate. That seems a bit extreme for the first date. I didn't mean re-create either, which is kind of the same thing. I was playing off "recreational." As is recreating in park. Not that the recreational things you spoke of would be suitable for a park. lol
JakeTheSnake · 70-79, M
