I Think A Good Man Is Hard To Find
I don't think this is new, I think that the victims are just now be heard, unlike before; the volume of their cries and frustrations had been muted for a long long time and is still muted in many places.
I think there's a conscious and deliberate effort regardless of gender, to go for what's popular than go for what's right, even if what's popular may not be the right thing. And this is happening from an early age, (sadly, sometimes influenced my guardians), which is thus fashioning the decisions made by preteens, post teens, adults etc. Often, the only time that someone reverts to using their conscience instead of their "fan based/what's popular" part of their brains is when they are hit by something that completely shakes their existence in this world, like a terrible disease, loss of a close family member, jail time, near death incident etc. Sad but interestingly, these harsh events leave people so desperate that they dive into their mental and humane dump stands to look for the values they have for so long ignored as 'unpopular'. I think this happens because when we hit ground bottom, we are often alone and no one is around to cheer us - no fan base. Sadly some people have to go through this to regain their human sobriety.
Good news is, there's a population of people not like that. They don't seek the popular path but instead seek to do what is right. However, doing what is right is often merely rewarded with a 'Thank You' card, but seldom appears in the popularity radar. Such people appear as 'slow' and/or less fun to be with. Thus the goodness and greatness in them is seldom cherished by many. A guy may be turned down by ladies or even vice vasa.
Having said this, men, who have a fair share of impact on a relationship or situation due to their decision making, and especially due to the (sometimes) traditional demand on them to have a leadership role, have succumbed to what is popular in their efforts to respond to this demand. Unfortunately, the result of doing what's popular turns out to be the default popular result, but not necessarily the right thing.
I think there's a conscious and deliberate effort regardless of gender, to go for what's popular than go for what's right, even if what's popular may not be the right thing. And this is happening from an early age, (sadly, sometimes influenced my guardians), which is thus fashioning the decisions made by preteens, post teens, adults etc. Often, the only time that someone reverts to using their conscience instead of their "fan based/what's popular" part of their brains is when they are hit by something that completely shakes their existence in this world, like a terrible disease, loss of a close family member, jail time, near death incident etc. Sad but interestingly, these harsh events leave people so desperate that they dive into their mental and humane dump stands to look for the values they have for so long ignored as 'unpopular'. I think this happens because when we hit ground bottom, we are often alone and no one is around to cheer us - no fan base. Sadly some people have to go through this to regain their human sobriety.
Good news is, there's a population of people not like that. They don't seek the popular path but instead seek to do what is right. However, doing what is right is often merely rewarded with a 'Thank You' card, but seldom appears in the popularity radar. Such people appear as 'slow' and/or less fun to be with. Thus the goodness and greatness in them is seldom cherished by many. A guy may be turned down by ladies or even vice vasa.
Having said this, men, who have a fair share of impact on a relationship or situation due to their decision making, and especially due to the (sometimes) traditional demand on them to have a leadership role, have succumbed to what is popular in their efforts to respond to this demand. Unfortunately, the result of doing what's popular turns out to be the default popular result, but not necessarily the right thing.
46-50, M
