I Lost Contact With a Friend

@Elizabeth28 Indeed that is for certain. I was in no way going to move, she was in dire need of a true personal touch - to get her through the trauma and out the other side. I am a firm believer that a knight in shining armour cannot also be a lifelong lover. I could be wrong of course, but to date that view stands in spite of opportunities to prove it wrong... Please don't insinuate that I'm implying you were going to move because of trauma there - I'm not. I'm simply recording a tangential point that may or may not be relevant.

@DreamCoCreators you are right about this a helper or knight cannot a fasade yo u have to be true to your self in order to love your so right the thing that hurt the most was her daughter i cared about her i wanted to help and love her lil girl as my own but it was not to be the mother went back to being a hooch mama lost her child ect so we lost touch but i cant help but think of the child that i in a way lost

@Elizabeth28 Such a shame. You cannot win them all. You are one, and this person needed more than you alone could give. There is a place in this world for every type of person, every type of interaction. Yours was simply *almost* the right fit for her, but was somehow different to exactly the necessary. Whether or not she will find what she needs, whether the daughter will - that is up to the world itself, not individuals. I guess I'm kind of reiterating life isn't fair, and don't blame others mantras - if it's not her fault, and it's not someone else's fault, and it's not your fault - then it's simply that life isn't fair and should be accepted. Sucks sometimes, and the memories stay with us for a long time. I am not giving you the message you need to hear to make peace with it, that's for sure. But maybe, just maybe, I'm helping you along that way somehow. Maybe not - maybe someone else will read this and it will help them understand something. We will never know, but that's the beauty of this place.

@becca00f same here soem are here to genuainly help others but ending burning there candle for some one else to use and ocne its over they leave us like a dirty rag some use people some dont now whe know wich clan she was

@becca00f This is a support network. I believe that when you grow enough in yourself, you begin to live it for real. And when you do that, the people you need around you will appear - and the time you once had for this place becomes insignificantly small - so small you cannot marry up the worth of the people you talk to with how much time you can give them. Another part is we are often the invisible cogs that encourage their gears to turn. Once their gears are turning, the clutch is released and off they go. Like a cucoon of safety, simply not needed anymore. I took great pride in those moments, few though they were.