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I Don't Know How to Break Down My Defensive Wall

It's rare that I actually have anything serious to ask, but i'm sort of lost on this one.
I've been through a lot in life and i'm a strong person from it, but recently i've realised I find it difficult to feel compassion for others. My actions are compassionate as my values are that way, but I used to be able to feel emotions very strongly. I think i've got very strong defence mechanisms, if people feel peaks and valleys i feel mostly flat, i'm not depressed though at all.

So the question is, how do you get in touch with your emotions again?/what did you do to help that?.

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Datura · F

It can help to ask yourself frequently during the day "how am I feeling?" and take time to quietly note bodily sensations, breathing pattern, and any feelings or emotions.
Journal writing might also help, and recapitulation at the end of the day.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@Datura I'll practice a little mindfulness, I did write a journal entry regarding this last night/this morning actually.
I'm gonna meditate on it later, i've let things out before but it's intense, feels good afterwards though.

Datura · F

I've found metta meditation has helped me also. The one where you say the phrases first for yourself, then for someone you love, then someone who is an antagonist, then for the world.
The phrases I use are
May I be filled with loving kindness
May I be well
May I be peaceful and at ease
May I be happy.
Lots of info online about it.

Hoping you find the release you are hoping for.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@Datura I've found a certain couple of classical songs help bring something out of me when combined with meditation.
It brings a certain catharsis.

Thanks, likewise.

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