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QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M
It's a pretty widespread preference. Nothing to shame anyone over, we like what we like, and largely have little direct control over it.
What sucks is when people turn these things into value judgements or use them for gatekeeping, rather than expressing a preference. Kind of how "I like women with large breasts" is ok - but "women with small boobs aren't even women" is harmful and isn't a good look. Come to think of it the whole "real women have curves" thing always rubbed me the wrong way too.
What sucks is when people turn these things into value judgements or use them for gatekeeping, rather than expressing a preference. Kind of how "I like women with large breasts" is ok - but "women with small boobs aren't even women" is harmful and isn't a good look. Come to think of it the whole "real women have curves" thing always rubbed me the wrong way too.
helenS · 36-40, F
bijouxbroussard · F
@QuixoticSoul That’s what gets me. A lot of the same women who bash men who don’t look a certain way rather than just liking what they like and moving on would be the first ones mad if some man said “real women look THIS way”. And they know it.
QuixoticSoul · 41-45, M
@helenS One of my long term partners was downright traumatized by the bullying she received over growing up with an A cup - from both men and women. People can be remarkably shitty to each other.
It's fine to have preferences, culturally fashionable body types happen, etc - but I don't like our propensity to abuse each other over stuff like that.
It's fine to have preferences, culturally fashionable body types happen, etc - but I don't like our propensity to abuse each other over stuff like that.