I Am a Good Listener

Hi Twister...
I'm new here and surfing around just checking out personalities I like:

To answer your question - No, a relationship is built on reciprocity; it isn't necessarily tit-for-tat, but if the people you care about consistently don't share a concern for your needs (just listening to you and considering your needs), then I think they are either: too distracted with their own problems and just can't give you their attention because they need to focus on their own problem(s), or: they are just plain selfish and place their issues / life activities as being more important than yours.
I think you can figure out if you are really helping them or if they are just making conversation about themselves. Bless you though for trying, and for not burning yourself out trying. This shows your intellect and wisdom - which makes you a valuable person to know whether your particular 'friends' realize it or not.

Thanks both. @ JollyRoger, your message it's wise and beautiful.
I have this crave for friendship bc of my past personal circumstances. I think it places myself in a needy position and I'm coping with behaviours I shouldn't cope. I mean, I don't put the right bounderies and perhaps people notice it.

As I said before, I don't think twice to give you my hand if you need me...and you are a stranger. Much more, with people I have like friends. It's something natural in me. But, I think I take it to an extreme.
That leads me many times to look for excuses to any rude or mean behaviour.
So, I'm partly responsible.

Twister.... It strikes me you do know who you are.... So, don't worry about this!
Perhaps you can just think about your efforts as, "Paying a deed forward" rather than worrying about the feedback you seem to have on your mind.

My philosophy: We humans are put on this earth to prove ourselves - not to others, but to God who will accept us for the efforts we make to help others.

Think of your conversations with 'them' as your effort to help the helpless. I hope it makes the effort less painful.

I agree with @roger..it's not always equal but over a certain amount of time you must feel your needs fulfilled too. Time to get tougher

First step is recognising it-second is dealing..you're halfway there!

Thank you, Lemon!!! I think you're right. Now, that I see the pattern I can do something in this respect.

Simply add that it's a pattern I'm noticing in me.