Have you ever been dumped for being autistic? [I Live With Autism]

I’ve been dumped three times because of my autism (Asperger’s).

One guy found out that I have autism and distanced himself from me and then he said he didn’t want to date someone with a disability and broke my heart. (July-August 2011)

The second time I got dumped my boyfriend at the time asked me what is one thing about me that he doesn’t know. I hesitant to tell him but I just told him about my Asperger’s. He had no idea what that was and I had to explain to him. Everything was fine but then a month later he also broke things off with me. (September 2012 - March 2013)

And then my current ex-boyfriend I dated for three months (January-April 2021) went behind my back and cheated on me with another girl and he didn’t want to be with a woman with Asperger’s.

I’m afraid that I’m never going to get married or have a family of my own because no man’s gonna wanna there a woman with autism (Asperger’s). I guess I meant to stay single. I’m 27 i’m three years away of turning 30.

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SomeMichGuy · M

Ok, so you are "on the spectrum", but the Asperger's end is the better end of a scale which increasingly isolates & distances people.

If others did not know, you probably are not even that far into the Asperger's end.

Don't obsess about it. It is a part of you, and the people who matter will be able to accept it like your eye color(s), your taste in music, your speech patterns.

The people who freak out...well, some may well come around, but people who drop you because of it--when they were fine with you BEFORE finding it out!--are not ones to wait for.

This is in part a SELF-selection process, and THEY (these latter fools) are self-selecting to NOT find out how amazing you can be, yourself, and how amazing the two of you could be, together. If THEY won't bet on you/the two of you...then why should you?

You need someone who is in the relationship WITH you, willingly.
Such people DO exist. You only need to find one. Twenty-seven is not being at death's door; be patient, but be willing to see people for who THEY are. Esp. if they won't bet on you.