I Hate Living With My Parents
It is really infuriating. It is no ones fault but mine after all the decisions I have made these last few years of my young adult life. I chose to ignore my intuition and ended up pushing myself into a situation in which I let my depression and anxiety get worse because I was trying to be someone I wasn't and wasting my time on educational and career avenues that held no happiness or interest for me. I wallowed in my misery and didn't find solutions for years. Now o have a plan to move out by my next birthday and all my family thinks it's unrealistic to move our in about a year. I will create and make any way to reach my goal because living here is aggravating me to the point of seething anger. My parents are not monsters, they are very good people and could have kicked me out years ago and left me to fend for myself that being said living under someone's house means living under their rules. I am being financially supported by them right now and I can we they are giving a lot of effort to let my think for myself how, so I commend them for trying.
That being stated there are some issues I can't stand because I'm not living on my own.
1. My parents hire business contractors in skilled trades such as carpentry, electrician, and so on. Sometimes these people come early in the morning at 9:00 am on the weekends and it's aggravating because I want to sleep in.
2. No one in my household can have a lock on our doors. My parents, my sister, and myself have no locked doors. My parents don't want any locks on bedroom doors. Sometimes people knock other times my parents and sister just barge in. I have occasionally accidentally barged in which I'm trying to not do, but I hate it especially because since I sleep naked to air out my body overnight, I have to barricade the door to warn me if anyone is trying to enter my room. First I barricaded my door with a chair then they threatened to possibly remove my desk chair id they caught me using it to barricade my door again. So now I have resorted to using my sewing basket, knitting bag, and other smaller items to block entry into my room.
3. I get very annoyed with extended family members either just occasionally showing up unannounced ( even if it's to drop off stuff my grandmother finished altering), just checking up on my sister and me,etc. I have mentioned calling beforehand in conversation and while they have been better about at times they still do this. I absolutely hate having to deal with constant phone calls. Is there not a time overseas relatives don't have to call twice daily? The most obnoxious is from relatives I don't even know overseas. They call my parents house incessantly when they find a chance to call. Three times sometimes in two hour period. I'd no one is picking up the phone, leave a voice message and wait for someone to return your call! How hard is that? I don't want to deal with them so if I'm home alone I ignore their calls. I don't care about people I barely know if at all, and never communicate with, leave me alone. Another thing when my mothers parents come by but my mother asks her to, I find it that irritating because I don't like seeing people before a re
4. I have to consult my parents if I go somewhere. I need to tell them a general idea where I am going, , and text them every couple of hours so they don't worry. My parents were concerned and my mom was panicking when I texted them I was going over my friends house. They didn't really remember who she was though I believed they did because I had mentioned her before and they had met her as someone who drove us to the airport and because I hadn't contacted them ( not realizing they were texting or my mom left voice mail on my phone because I lowered the volume and didn't check it) for three hours! Not one or two days, 2.5 to 3.5 hours! I was taking to her and met her friendly little dog and found out she works with polymer clay for jewelry and crafts, and paints. We grabbed a tea and split a strudel like dessert from a from a sweets and donut shop. Really people I called her up because I needed someone to talk to about issues that she was only person who could relate. My family is overprotective of me at my age sometimes. I feel as if I'm 14 not a 20 something young lady. My mother was in tears when I got home because she worried something could have happened to me. I am glad my parents love me and care, but stop overreacting. This makes me feel like they don't trust my judgement on whether someone is bad news or not. Newsflash my new friend is fine! If my instinct told me something was off about someone, I would listen to it at this point of my life!
5. My parents are not comfortable with letting me drive long distances1-2 hours) for outings. I want to go to Boston area for the day or north of it, not by myself and with me driving. The drivers are insane on the road which is true and their fear is I exponentially increase mg risk of getting into an automobile accident. So considering I really don't have even a few friends in this local area or region. That severely limits my options. And I generally hate the local area I live in and am fed up with seeing it and am disgusted with interacting with many of the local people, well sometimes I don't go out very much.
6. When my sisters little neighborhood friends come over every week just ringing the doorbell at the end of every week wanting to hang out with her. They are good kids, but sometimes I wish they would not come to the door. When my sisters had sleepovers, some are quieter than others, but you know what I do feel like having to hear the racket from others kids in the house.
7. I can't decorate my room however i want ( I have some input but there are limitations)
8. I don't like large family gatherings for birthdays and holidays that last until 11:00pm of so after a certain hour I am thinking get out doi can do what I want!
That being stated there are some issues I can't stand because I'm not living on my own.
1. My parents hire business contractors in skilled trades such as carpentry, electrician, and so on. Sometimes these people come early in the morning at 9:00 am on the weekends and it's aggravating because I want to sleep in.
2. No one in my household can have a lock on our doors. My parents, my sister, and myself have no locked doors. My parents don't want any locks on bedroom doors. Sometimes people knock other times my parents and sister just barge in. I have occasionally accidentally barged in which I'm trying to not do, but I hate it especially because since I sleep naked to air out my body overnight, I have to barricade the door to warn me if anyone is trying to enter my room. First I barricaded my door with a chair then they threatened to possibly remove my desk chair id they caught me using it to barricade my door again. So now I have resorted to using my sewing basket, knitting bag, and other smaller items to block entry into my room.
3. I get very annoyed with extended family members either just occasionally showing up unannounced ( even if it's to drop off stuff my grandmother finished altering), just checking up on my sister and me,etc. I have mentioned calling beforehand in conversation and while they have been better about at times they still do this. I absolutely hate having to deal with constant phone calls. Is there not a time overseas relatives don't have to call twice daily? The most obnoxious is from relatives I don't even know overseas. They call my parents house incessantly when they find a chance to call. Three times sometimes in two hour period. I'd no one is picking up the phone, leave a voice message and wait for someone to return your call! How hard is that? I don't want to deal with them so if I'm home alone I ignore their calls. I don't care about people I barely know if at all, and never communicate with, leave me alone. Another thing when my mothers parents come by but my mother asks her to, I find it that irritating because I don't like seeing people before a re
4. I have to consult my parents if I go somewhere. I need to tell them a general idea where I am going, , and text them every couple of hours so they don't worry. My parents were concerned and my mom was panicking when I texted them I was going over my friends house. They didn't really remember who she was though I believed they did because I had mentioned her before and they had met her as someone who drove us to the airport and because I hadn't contacted them ( not realizing they were texting or my mom left voice mail on my phone because I lowered the volume and didn't check it) for three hours! Not one or two days, 2.5 to 3.5 hours! I was taking to her and met her friendly little dog and found out she works with polymer clay for jewelry and crafts, and paints. We grabbed a tea and split a strudel like dessert from a from a sweets and donut shop. Really people I called her up because I needed someone to talk to about issues that she was only person who could relate. My family is overprotective of me at my age sometimes. I feel as if I'm 14 not a 20 something young lady. My mother was in tears when I got home because she worried something could have happened to me. I am glad my parents love me and care, but stop overreacting. This makes me feel like they don't trust my judgement on whether someone is bad news or not. Newsflash my new friend is fine! If my instinct told me something was off about someone, I would listen to it at this point of my life!
5. My parents are not comfortable with letting me drive long distances1-2 hours) for outings. I want to go to Boston area for the day or north of it, not by myself and with me driving. The drivers are insane on the road which is true and their fear is I exponentially increase mg risk of getting into an automobile accident. So considering I really don't have even a few friends in this local area or region. That severely limits my options. And I generally hate the local area I live in and am fed up with seeing it and am disgusted with interacting with many of the local people, well sometimes I don't go out very much.
6. When my sisters little neighborhood friends come over every week just ringing the doorbell at the end of every week wanting to hang out with her. They are good kids, but sometimes I wish they would not come to the door. When my sisters had sleepovers, some are quieter than others, but you know what I do feel like having to hear the racket from others kids in the house.
7. I can't decorate my room however i want ( I have some input but there are limitations)
8. I don't like large family gatherings for birthdays and holidays that last until 11:00pm of so after a certain hour I am thinking get out doi can do what I want!
31-35, F
